Some "Weeds" of Wisdom For You

7/8/2024

Photo by Logan Isbell on Unsplash

“Don’t let the tall weeds cast a shadow on the beautiful flowers in your garden.”
- Steve Maraboli, Life, The Truth, and Being Free

The other day I went out to take on one of my most dreaded summer tasks: weeding. This is an activity I have always disliked as it is dirty, time consuming and very hard on my back. Do you feel sorry for me yet?

Looking at the size of the overgrown weeds, I could not help but scold myself for not getting out there sooner. It is truly incredible how fast and resilient those nasty bad boys are.

I honestly had weeded not long ago. Yet much to my dismay there was still this vast green forest of unwanted foliage staring at me, taunting me, up in my face needing my immediate attention.

As I was feeling very sorry for myself, I started to think of life applications around weeds and weeding, and realized as much as I would like to think otherwise, we can actually learn a lot from these pesky plants.

In our lives we need to do "weeding" on a regular basis. Taking a moral inventory of what should and should not be in our lives is extremely critical to our personal growth. When we get proactive and responsibly address these “weeds” we are putting ourselves in a much better position to become all that God has created us to be.

Here are some “Weeds of Wisdom” to consider.

"Weed of Wisdom #1"
Weeds grow where we don’t want them to and stifle the true beauty trying to emerge.

Photo by hans middendorp

How many times have you seen beautiful flowers struggling and unwanted weeds thriving? I’m sorry but what is wrong with this picture? Weeds like negative things in our lives can take deep root in areas where we are trying to grow in healthy aspects.

For instance, where we are trying to be more physically fit, the weed of unhealthy food choices and inactivity can keep us stuck. We need to look at what is holding us back from thriving in certain areas and make major changes. Sometimes this is a difficult and painful process, but it is very necessary.

When I was a substance abuse counselor, a client of mine who was caught in the grips of alcoholism one session was sharing his new and "exciting" goal with me. Proudly he declared that he had decided to become a “social drinker” and would strictly limit himself to one or two beers each time he met with friends.

He did not like it when I told him that with his severe alcohol problem, this was not a viable option for him. The thought of him weeding out alcohol entirely from his life was so terrifying that he thought social drinking would be a good and comfortable compromise.

To say I burst his bubble would indeed be an understatement. He was clearly unhappy with me; however, alcohol was such a huge weed in his life. It was literally choking any chance for a healthy life he had. Unfortunately, he just wasn’t ready to recognize it yet.

"Weed of Wisdom #2"
Weeds have deep roots, and we need to get to the bottom of them and uproot them as soon as possible.

Photo by Sasha Kim

It is not enough to just cut off the tops and hope no one will notice. We can all be guilty of this at times. We try to use the least intrusive methods. It is more comfortable for us.

An example might be if you are trying to cover up a smoking problem, you spray perfume all around you. This will not cover it. You are truly fooling yourself.

I had to literally wrestle with some real weeds in my backyard garden. I tell you; they did not come out without a fight. The weeds were huge and were becoming very noticeable.

It is like that in life as well with our problem areas and struggles. A subtle small habit or activity can seem quite innocent at first, yet before we know it, that issue has a stronghold in our lives. What could have been easily treated, has now become a much more difficult issue to address. We must get to the root of the issue and not choose a bandaid solution for issues that run deep.

"Weed of Wisdom #3"
Many weeds are quite beautiful, but don’t be deceived as they are still harmful.

Photo by Dagmara Dombrov

I have received many dandelion bouquets over the years from my sweet students. As they think they are giving me a wonderful bouquet of flowers each time, I have never quite had the heart to tell them differently. I cannot tell you how many times I have found a mug and water and put them on my desk to recognize the love that came behind them.

Pretty “weeds” in our lives can be difficult for us to see as well. They may be things that we perceive as harmless or they may even be healthy activities, yet our lives may be way off balance.

For example, exercising is wonderful, but if you are spending hours at the gym and minutes with your family, something is terribly wrong. Likewise, if you invest much time and energy into keeping a clean house, yet will not respect those who live in it, take a hard look at the situation. Changes are obviously necessary.

"Weed of Wisdom #4"
Weeding is an ongoing process.

Photo by Kampus Production

As mentioned, you do not weed once and think your job is done. I truly wish it was that easy. We need to check in on our progress regularly in our areas targeted for growth to ensure we are on track.

Old habits can creep back slowly just like those troublesome weeds and before we notice it, they are a force to be reckoned with once again. You do not want to ever let that happen. Be self aware and honest with yourself to stick with your growth plan.

"Weed of Wisdom #5"
Stay with the flowers.

Photo by Secret Garden

Don’t surround yourself with those who are continuing in the behaviours you are trying to avoid. If you are trying to become less critical, don’t hang out with critical people, or if you are attempting to overcome an addiction, don’t associate with people who are actively involved with what you are trying to avoid. This clearly makes no sense.

Likewise, if you are trying to stop drinking, don’t hang out in bars, or if you are trying to eat healthier, don’t frequent the junk food aisles of the grocery store. Some people or settings may need to be weeded out of your life permanently for you to become truly successful.

People who are winning the victory over their “weeds” and avoid relapse recognize their individual triggers and make a conscious effort to change their routines so they can make better and lasting progress in their recoveries.

Making changes can be very difficult. The weeds you need to address may have been a part of your life for years. They may even seem comfortable and familiar to you. They may in your opinion have been a coping mechanism for a period of time.

You may have the desire, but do not even know how or where to begin. You may lack the proper tools. Well, the good news is you are not alone and I am here to help.

Many people want and need to make changes. God’s words says, “He gives us beauty for ashes, and the oil of joy for mourning.” In other words, God specializes in giving us beautiful flowers in our lives instead of those ugly weeds.

You are so valuable, and you deserve to bloom in all the beauty that was intended for your life.

If those weeds are especially troublesome perhaps you could also benefit from professional help. Please be open to this option if your situation warrants it. Such options could include addictions counselors, pastoral care workers, marriage and family therapists and self-help groups such as AA or NA. This help can really assist you on your journey of positive change.

Your journey of positive change begins with the first step. Don’t be afraid to step out in faith. A whole new life awaits you!

So my friend, grab a hat. Go get out your gardening gloves and tools. Prepare to get a little dirty and off you go! Happy "weeding!"

Trust me, when you have the courage to do weeding, you will be amazed at what manifests in your life when all those nasty weeds are a thing of the past. It is a thing of beauty I tell ya!

Right there with you,
~ Dana

Hebrews 12: 1-2 Therefore since we are surrounded by such a cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders us and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith.

Little Lesson Learned: Personal weeding is a necessary and healthy process so we can truly grow into the healthy, uninhibited people we were meant to be.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2014, Weeds of Wisdom, littlelessonslearnedbydana

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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, blogger, author, and speaker. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

Tags: gardening, weeding, moral inventory, personal growth, getting honest, goal setting

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Seeing Clearly

6/26/2024

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Photo by Ksenia Chernaya

"To be honest with yourself is to gain knowledge into who you really are."
~ Unknown

I remember it so well. I certainly knew better, but I went for it anyways. The last day of school is always very emotional for me but silly me I just HAD to start the “goodbye/ you have meant so much to me” speech with my class. Well, I got about as far as “You have been an amazing class, and I am extremely proud of all of you.” After that the tears started flowing and I could barely continue, especially when I saw some students also crying.

Well, I did what I had to do then to get by and that was to put my prescription glasses up on my head, so I did not have to witness their sad expressions. This is a little trick I have learned to help me through some difficult and emotional times.

I first used this handy technique when I had to sing at my high school graduation. As it too was emotional for me, the fact that I could face a sea of blurred, expressionless faces gave me the help I needed to sing with gusto. Somehow the way I saw it is when you can’t really see it, you can endure it.

Well, I did finally get a hold of myself at school after sending out some emergency texts for prayer and we actually did have a nice last day despite the tears. I was grateful that the year had been so incredible that the emotion was there, as it was a testament to the good times we had had and all the great memories we shared.

Sometimes seeing things clearly can be too painful. Although the blurred vision technique worked for me that day, in life we need to face our issues clearly to make true progress. This is often not as easy as it sounds.

When I would do substance abuse counselling with my clients, we talked a lot about denial when it comes to our problems. Denial can be broken down to “Don’t– Even - Notice - I – Am – Lying.” Sometimes we become too comfortable with looking the other way pretending issues don’t exist in our lives. That can only continue for so long without consequences as eventually important issues need to be addressed.

I would often see this with alcoholic clients who had convinced themselves that becoming social drinkers was their goal. The thought of giving alcohol up altogether was just too painful for them, so only drinking "socially" was a nice compromise, or so they thought. A recipe for disaster is more like it, but they must realize that on their own to overcome it.

Photo by Alexas Fotos

Every day is a new day. A new beginning waits for us each day. What do your eyes see as your strengths and your struggles? We all have them.

What can you start today to activate change in your life and initiate positive steps? For each one of us it is different.

Well the summer is upon me, and I can see clearly the school year I have left behind. It is good to do some honest reflection with no blurred vision.

I am both ready for a change and a rest, yet grateful for all the positive things that have taken place. Feel free to email me ([email protected]) about what you are working on. I would love to pray with you or cheer you on to victory! Remember you can't change what you don't acknowledge.

~ Until next time,

Dana

Romans 12: 1-2 (The Message Bible) So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.

Little Lesson Learned: Looking closely at a situation that needs changing can be scary, but it is the first step to positive change.

© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2015, Blurred Vision littlelessonslearnedbydana

Tags: elementary teaching, denial, honesty, making changes, setting goals

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Some "Weeds" of Wisdom For You

"Weed of Wisdom #1"
Weeds grow where we don’t want them to and stifle the true beauty trying to emerge.

"Weed of Wisdom #2"
Weeds have deep roots, and we need to get to the bottom of them and uproot them as soon as possible.

"Weed of Wisdom #3"
Many weeds are quite beautiful, but don’t be deceived as they are still harmful.

"Weed of Wisdom #4"
Weeding is an ongoing process.

"Weed of Wisdom #5"
Stay with the flowers.

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Tags: gardening, weeding, moral inventory, personal growth, getting honest, goal setting

Seeing Clearly

Tags: elementary teaching, denial, honesty, making changes, setting goals

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Some "Weeds" of Wisdom For You

"Weed of Wisdom #1" Weeds grow where we don’t want them to and stifle the true beauty trying to emerge.

"Weed of Wisdom #2"Weeds have deep roots, and we need to get to the bottom of them and uproot them as soon as possible.

"Weed of Wisdom #3"Many weeds are quite beautiful, but don’t be deceived as they are still harmful.

"Weed of Wisdom #4"Weeding is an ongoing process.

"Weed of Wisdom #5"Stay with the flowers.

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Tags: gardening, weeding, moral inventory, personal growth, getting honest, goal setting

Seeing Clearly

Tags: elementary teaching, denial, honesty, making changes, setting goals

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Archives

"Weed of Wisdom #1"
Weeds grow where we don’t want them to and stifle the true beauty trying to emerge.

"Weed of Wisdom #2"
Weeds have deep roots, and we need to get to the bottom of them and uproot them as soon as possible.

"Weed of Wisdom #3"
Many weeds are quite beautiful, but don’t be deceived as they are still harmful.

"Weed of Wisdom #4"
Weeding is an ongoing process.

"Weed of Wisdom #5"
Stay with the flowers.