Wisdom That Walks, Not Just Talks

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"Wisdom is not a product of schooling, but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it."
​~ Albert Einstein

When I was younger, I used to enjoy reading advice columns in our local papers. One interesting piece I would often ponder was that, quite often, the writer already knew the answer to his or her dilemma. Perhaps simply a new perspective or validation was what the writer was seeking.

Each case is different, but seeking wisdom on how to respond to various situations is certainly commendable.

Early in my career journey, I was employed as a social worker at the Salvation Army. In this role, I counseled people who were in the strongholds of, or in recovery from, drug and alcohol addiction. Week after week, I imparted advice and strategies to clients, seeking to empower them to overcome their serious issues with substances. I was invested in their recovery and partnered with them to see their lives changed for the better.

​Through this experience, and my many years as a teacher, I have gathered insights about wisdom that I would like to share.

​Let’s dig a little deeper together.

Wisdom Listens Before It Speaks

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Before we can truly help someone, we need to attentively listen to their story and get a good handle on what the situation is and where the problems lie.

Jumping into problem-solving prematurely is very counterproductive to both the speaker and the listener. It opens us up to misunderstanding and frustration if it feels that what someone is saying to us is not being understood.

Wise people listen well and share guidance at the appropriate time. There are times when listening only could be the best option. People are at different stages of needing help, so being very sensitive to people sharing their hearts is essential.

​I have been blessed to have several people share parts of their story with me that they have never shared with anyone. I feel honoured that they trust me and want to always maintain an atmosphere of comfort and safety so they can share freely.

​Listening with our hearts, not just our ears, does that.

Wise People Apply What They Hear

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The most productive people do more than just listen to great advice. They actually take it to heart and apply it to their lives. Decision-making can be challenging. Seeking input from others who have walked a similar path to you can be so helpful. They can share their success tips and help you avoid pitfalls they experienced. When seeking wisdom from others, be very open-minded and attentive. Expect to acquire tools that will empower you to take positive steps to change your life.

​Actions speak louder than words. Just listening to advice does nothing to move the needle for your problem-solving. Take messy action. Take the first step. You do not have to do everything perfectly. Many aspects of life change are works in progress.

Believe in yourself.

You are not confused.

​You are figuring this out little by little, and you can do it!

Counsel Is Meant to Refine Us, Not Just Comfort Us

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When seeking counsel, envision yourself on the other side of your struggles. It is a very powerful visualization strategy. I would often tell my friends and clients that I would chat with that someday the challenges they are experiencing will one day be an inspiration to others.  At times they found this hard to believe but time after time this was the case if they were willing to do the hard work needed.

People can rise above their struggles and be a role model to others.

When seeking advice and wisdom from others, be very proactive in your approach. Believe that this process will really change you and your situations from this day forward.

​Wisdom requires teachability. Seek wise counsel and soak up what they have to share with you. Go with a notepad and pen and record the strategies you will use. Be accountable. Check back with updates and record your progress. Trust me. When you are serious about change, your story will be a beacon of hope for others someday.

Call to action: 

• Know that you can be the giver and receiver of great advice. It just depends on the situation. 
• Be open to seeking out help when your circumstances become unmanageable. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
• Seek formal counseling if needed. There are sure to be many options in your local community and there is no shame in needing help.
• You are not alone. Everyone needs wisdom and counsel at different points in their lives. You are in good company.

Until next time, 

​Dana

Author

Dana Romualdi is an elementary teacher, content creator, blogger and author who is passionate about helping others find hope, healing, and growth through life’s challenges. As the creator of Little Lessons Learned by Dana, she shares faith-filled insights and practical wisdom to inspire others to live with purpose and compassion.

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