The Things We Do For Love

7/14/2024

Photo by Studio Negarin

"True love is when you know that no matter what happens, you will always choose each other." ~ Unknown

My husband and I had the privilege of attending one of my best friend’s daughter’s wedding this weekend. There was lots of incredible food and engaging conversation, along with many lively musical numbers from the very talented family, and so many memorable moments.

Some moments were heartwarming, some were very funny, some were very touching and some really gave you something to think about.

We had a great time and were so happy to celebrate with the beautiful couple, Hannah and Sean.

One moment that really stood out was something Sean, the groom, said in his speech to Hannah. It is how it made me think, "This one is a keeper."

He shared that he had really expanded his interests and willingness to try new things since meeting Hannah.

He went on to explain that even if he personally didn’t get super excited about the quaint new coffee shop an hour and half away, or the latest musical theater production in town, because Hannah did, he would join her and do those things “for her” with pleasure. This resonated with both my husband and I and we shared with Sean how much we appreciated him sharing that. This is exactly what true love does.

This is such an important quality to have in a strong marriage. The ability to participate in experiences that are not necessarily your "cup of tea" with both a positive attitude and happy heart because your significant other loves those things, is absolutely love in action for your partner.

Believe me this goes a long way in relationships. Relationships are all about give and take and I am so glad this newly married couple have already figured that out. It will sure set them up for success as the years unfold.

Hannah and Sean ~ Photo by: Kayleigh Hayward

I love the Disney movie, Enchanted. In the movie one of my favourite songs is That’s How You Know. In the song it speaks of all the little things someone will do for you when in love such as: write a little love note, dedicate a song to you, send flowers or take you out dancing. There are just certain things that show love in action and the key to a successful marriage is to keep on doing those things no matter how many anniversaries you have celebrated.

Photo by Emmanuel Phaeton on Unsplash

Love in action was also so powerfully demonstrated by our Heavenly Father.

In Romans 5:8 it says: But God proves his love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

God loved us all so much that even in our sinful state, he sent his only son to die on a lonely cross for us. It is hard to fathom why he would do that when we are so incredibly undeserving.

He didn't see it that way. He saw us as so valuable and worthy of redemption. He did this so that we could be forgiven of our sins and enjoy Heaven as our home one day.

If that is not love in action, I sure don’t know what is!

We can follow his example to demonstrate love in action daily for those who are most important to us as well. Truth be told, it is not always easy to do this on our own. We are only human after all.

Whether it is our romantic relationships, or with family members, colleagues, or other significant people in our lives, as people we are not always skilled in this area. We fall short all too often.

With God’s love and acceptance fueling our tanks however, it empowers us to take our loving others to a whole new level, eqipping us to “love God and love people” in the most powerful way possible.

Here's to love in action!

Until next time,
Dana

Lamentations 3:22: The faithful love of the Lord never ends. His mercies never cease.

Little Lesson Learned: When it comes to truly loving others, action really does speak louder than words. Love out loud today!

© 2024, littlelessonslearnedbydana

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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, blogger, author, and speaker. Dana desires to "love God and love people" whole heartedly. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much needed encouragement. Dana lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

Tags: marriage, weddings, love, God's love, love in action, actions speak louder than words

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Joy in the Camp: Part 2 of the Joy Series

2/3/2024

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“Joy: the kind of happiness that doesn’t depend on what happens.” ~ David Steindl – Rast Check out part one in this series:
Where Joy Lives here! where-joy-lives.html

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Joy. A small word but a HUGE need for all of us. Joy truly looks different for everyone, but it is something we honestly can’t live without. Several years ago, I was employed by the Salvation Army as the coordinator of their addictions program. Many people would come to us discouraged and downtrodden, burdened with poverty, heartaches and addiction struggles. Our team would do our best to send a little joy their way, giving them help in a tangible way. Whether it was in the form of a warm meal, a listening ear, a referral to a next step program or some much needed food to fill their pantry, we did our best to meet their needs. I recall at that time, despite my quest to lift others’ spirits, I was going through a very hard time of my own. My spirits were at an all-time low. My husband and I, were desperate to start a family, yet had so far only experienced roadblocks and heartbreaks in that department. I remember so vividly when we FINALLY confirmed that our son Tyler was on the way, I could hardly contain my excitement. I had confided my heart’s desire to my amazing boss. He was such a compassionate and godly man and reminded me so much of my dad. He agreed to pray for us daily that our miracle would come. When the day finally came, I raced into his office with my incredible news to share. Teary eyed and speechless, he grabbed a set of old, well-used Salvation Army bells on his desk and started shaking them with unbridled enthusiasm. He then proudly said “Forgive me but, when I don’t know what to say and my heart is so, so full, I just have to let the joy bells ring.” It was such a cute memory and such a special moment between the two of us.

A Joyful Camp

My mom decided to start a mentorship program for young girls several years ago, and sometimes Tyler was invited on special occasions as well as you can see in this picture. The group was for a select handpicked bunch of girls who were very special to her, including my daughter, my little cousins, and daughters of very special friends who felt like family. She affectionally named this group, yes, you guessed it the “Joy Belles.” The goals of this noteworthy little group were two-fold: to offer mentorship and spiritual guidance in a fun atmosphere and to help the girls impact our local community in a positive way. Under my mom’s direction, the girls went many places and completed little meaningful projects together like participating in such things as community and beach cleanups. My mom went out of her way to make these events fun and purposeful, and the Joy Belles so looked forward to these memorable times every few months.

One very memorable Joy Belle event was what my mom creatively named “Camp I – Wanna – Jump – For- Joy.” It was to be the mother of all Joy Belle events, as my mom had pulled out all the stops. This time she had planned an entire weekend of fun, food and fellowship. Step by step, mom’s home and backyard had been lovingly transformed into a summer camp setting, complete with crafts, a tuck shop, cool games, tents, swimming and special activities. Mom enlisted my help with this one, and truth be told, I was thrilled to oblige. I adored my Mom and would do anything for her! Many tents were borrowed to make the event a success, and the girls were giddy with excitement and anticipation. Well, all was well, that is until sleep time. Mom and I couldn’t stop laughing when all the little girls, due to let's say three bugs, some odd noises, and a sprinkling of homesickness refused to sleep in any of the tents. Hello Plan B! We hunkered down sleepover style in our sleeping bags, enjoyed some great pizza and popcorn and giggled until our stomachs ached. Not quite as we had planned, but a great time, nonetheless. Incidentally at Mom's funeral it was very precious to see so many Joy Belles return and pay tribute to the woman they loved so much and had brought them so much joy.

The Joy Belles Today (I love these girls so much!)

Plan B

Life is often like what those little girls experienced in their tents that night. We have such high expectations. We feel our lives are going to go a certain way. We are excited. We are pumped and BOOM, life happens, and nothing is as we thought. Like the Joy Belles we abandon our tents and run for cover, feeling like our joy is lost. But wait! This is not how the story ends! In these times of disappointment, do not lose heart. Joy can still be found in Plan B. Keep an open mind and believe that implementing Plan B in your life can be a wonderful thing. Plan B sometimes even ends up being the best plan of all. It is the one you didn’t really see coming, but surprisingly, just what you needed all the while.

Keeping Joy In Your Camp

Photo by Fernando Andrade on Unsplash

So how do you keep joy in your camp when things go astray? First, focus on what you do have rather than what you don’t. Make a gratitude list and list things big and small that make you feel blessed each day. There really is so much we often take for granted. Make sure you embrace flexibility and have a good attitude. Find joy in the little things and take the time to really enjoy them.

During the pandemic on Pizza Days and other food days my students had to eat in shifts in the classroom, in an effort to minimize large groups without masks. This left at least half the class masked at any given time. One Pizza Day a little girl was sobbing when I returned after lunch. She had been so excited that it was Pizza Day, so I just didn’t quite understand. She explained in tears. “I got my pizza, but I didn’t get to enjoy it!” I completely got what she was saying as she felt pressured by the time restraints and eating in shifts rule. Her statement resonated with me in a different way, however. She had still gotten her heart’s desire but had not really enjoyed it. There's a life lesson here for sure. That often happens to us. Sometimes circumstances are to blame, but sometimes it is us who are the problem. Maybe our attitude needs to change, or we just need to slow down and really live in the moment for once. Finding gratitude every day keeps a steady supply of joy streaming. Every day when we wake up we should have joy to be blessed with the gift of a new day, as many are not that fortunate.

Well, that is it for now my friend. I wish you "joy in your camp to the fullest!"

Until next time,
Dana

Romans 13:15 NIV
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Little Lesson Learned: Joy can be found in the most unexpected places. Don’t forget that.

P.S. : One more thing as well, always enjoy the pizza!! :)

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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, motivational speaker and recording artist. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

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The joys of my life: Tyler and Shannon, now 25 and 28.

Click here for Where Joy Lives Part One in the Joy Series

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The Things We Do For Love

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Tags: marriage, weddings, love, God's love, love in action, actions speak louder than words

Joy in the Camp: Part 2 of the Joy Series

“Joy: the kind of happiness that doesn’t depend on what happens.” ~ David Steindl – Rast Check out part one in this series:
Where Joy Lives here! where-joy-lives.html

A Joyful Camp

The Joy Belles Today (I love these girls so much!)

Plan B

Keeping Joy In Your Camp

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The Things We Do For Love

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Tags: marriage, weddings, love, God's love, love in action, actions speak louder than words

Joy in the Camp: Part 2 of the Joy Series

“Joy: the kind of happiness that doesn’t depend on what happens.” ~ David Steindl – Rast Check out part one in this series: ​Where Joy Lives here! where-joy-lives.html

A Joyful Camp

The Joy Belles Today (I love these girls so much!)

Plan B

Keeping Joy In Your Camp

Tags: life lessons, joy, happiness, self improvement, spiritual guidance, growth mindset, encouragement, Christian blog, life advice, Christian blogger, spiritual growth, grief and loss, grief counseling, bereavement help, life skills

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“Joy: the kind of happiness that doesn’t depend on what happens.” ~ David Steindl – Rast Check out part one in this series:
Where Joy Lives here! where-joy-lives.html