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​Can you believe that Christmas is just around the corner? This year has just flown by and the fact that the Christmas season is in full swing along with the familiar sights, sounds and stressors seems unreal.
 
Do You Hear What I Hear?
The sounds of Christmas are all around us despite what is going on right now in our world. I hear carols on the radio, children laughing and well-wishers saying, “Merry Christmas!”  I gave my students colouring books this year as a gift and while they worked happily, a few of us had a spontaneous dance party in the classroom to Rocking Around the Christmas Tree. ​Their excitement was absolutely infectious. When you are a child there is lots of excited chatter and giggles this time of year. Oh, to be a kid again! When I see these moments I wish I could bottle them and save them for a rainy day when I am needing a much-needed ray of sunshine. Kids are so precious! It is heartwarming to hear them enjoying the season, despite all the chaos and uncertainty a global pandemic brings.

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Do You See What I See?
Christmas decorations and holiday themed artwork adorn homes, halls, and school classroom doors.  A dear custodian at my school Denise set up special Christmas inflatables at work for a fun surprise for the students and staff. She is so thoughtful and kind. It sure brought a lot of much needed laughter and smiles to an otherwise routine day.  Hustle and bustle are also in the air. I am working to  complete all my Christmas shopping as I am determined to avoid the last-minute rush this year.

I see lots of festive sights, yet amongst that I see discouraged people as well. I see you. I know how you feel. I understand. Christmas is just not the same this year for a variety of reasons. Please know it will not always be this way. There will come a day where things improve and masks and social distancing will be a thing of the past. I find comfort in that.

Do You Feel What I Feel?
Nostalgia? Excitement? Fatigue? Stress? Maybe a combination of all four? For women especially I find the Christmas season brings it all. It is easy to focus on the “work” of getting ready for the Christmas season and miss out on the joy. I saw a quote that said, “ I have come to realize that the magic of Christmas was really just the work of a mom who loved me very much.” When the kids were little I especially felt it on Christmas Eve trying to make everything perfect for them before they woke up Christmas morning. Getting everything done on time for everyone is certainly no easy task. Take a deep breath. Regroup and try to relax and take in the moment as hard as that may be at times.

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Do You Know What I Know?
Christmas comes and goes so quickly, and we need to make a conscious effort to be emotionally present and enjoy it. Cherish the time with family and friends and keep on making precious memories. Don't let Covid 19 steal your Christmas spirit. Put your foot down my friend! This nasty virus has already taken so much from you, don't let it have your Christmas too! Remember that it is not about the gifts, meal or decorations but truly about having those you love around you.

Finally, don’t forget that Jesus is the true reason for the season. He is the whole purpose of why we celebrate this blessed holiday in the first place. Santa Claus is special indeed but let's remember who truly deserves the spotlight.

I wish you and yours a wonderful and very Merry Christmas and a blessed and prosperous new year. Make this a Christmas to remember. I know that is my goal.

~ Until next time,
Dana

Romans 15:13 ~ May the God of Hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him.

Little Lesson Learned: The sounds, sights and experiences of Christmas are still ours for the taking. Make a decision to really take it all in this year. I know I intend to.

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“Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.”
​~ Henri J.M. Nouwen

​The Christmas season is upon us and once again it is hard to believe how fast the year has gone by. The hustle and bustle of the season can leave us with a variety of emotions ranging from excitement to complete exhaustion.

As a young girl I loved to watch the Christmas specials every year. Among the cherished favourites was A Charlie Brown’s Christmas, which my siblings and I watched with great pleasure as a special and cherished family tradition. Christmas was always a happy time for me growing up. I came from a strong, Christian family who loved each other dearly and put Christ at the center of Christmas. Christmas and life in general were all that it should be in my corner of the world and I was very unfamiliar with anything different. Naively I assumed that most families had the same experience as I did. With this is mind, it is understandable how I could not identify with people who did not have the joy of the season.

I recall being very confused when Charlie Brown confides in Lucy that he is struggling with feelings of sadness over the holidays, yet to his dismay he can’t quite pinpoint the reason. As a child that seemed inconceivable to me that anyone, especially a child could be sad at Christmas. Fortunately for Charlie Brown he made it through the holidays.  With the support of friends and getting engaged in holiday traditions such as being involved in a Christmas play; he eventually finds peace and joy over the holidays.  Needless to say though, it was definitely a painful process for him.

As I got older, it made so much sense to me.  I came to realize that many people in life are very much like Charlie Brown. He was not as exceptional as I had once imagined. The holidays lose their magic as you age and others too had difficulty with the holiday season. For some depression and sadness linger over the holidays like a heavy cloak. They hear songs like It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year over the loud speaker and all they want to do is cry. For them this time of year is anything but wonderful and certainly not the “happiest season of all,” as the song states. Many people have deep sorrow and sadness in their lives throughout the year and the holidays can only accentuate that further in many cases. Many have lost loved ones and their painful absence at a family get-together can be almost unbearable. Where some may hope the Christmas season like magic can make all sadness disappear, this is realistically not the case. 

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​In my work as a clinical social worker at the Salvation Army I heard many sad stories of lives torn apart from substance abuse, poverty, great loss, and family dysfunction. It was especially difficult at Christmas for many.  With all their other problems, these people were often living below the poverty line, so purchasing gifts was extremely challenging. This is where the joy of giving rather than receiving really took action. The Salvation Army provides food baskets and toys for needy families year after year and it was so exciting to be a part of that rewarding process. As I would hand out bags of toys to thankful parents it was extremely touching to see the gratitude and relief on their faces. They knew that their Christmas would be a bit brighter due a little help from a caring community.

The carol Joy to the World understandably comes to mind when pondering this season. The lyrics are “Joy to the world. The Lord is come. Let Heaven and nature sing. Let every heart prepare him room.” The last line really hits home. The concept of “let every heart prepare Him room” is very thought provoking.  This speaks of the need and desire we all have to experience true joy, yet we need to make room for the One who is the "true joy giver." 

Individually the choice is ours. I was taught in Sunday school that  to have true joy (J-O-Y), it meant to have Jesus first (J) others next (O) and yourself last. (Y) This does seem like a winning formula, yet many have not discovered this yet. Each person needs to prepare Christ room in his or her heart, yet many have not taken that important step. Hearts can be so full of other desires, dreams, and pursuits that people miss the true reason they were created.

We were created to love God and put Him first. It says in God’s word Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33) The “all these things” that this verse is speaking of includes the joy that we all are seeking. When we have our priorities straight and Christ is at the center of our lives, He helps us each day to discover the joy we desire.  

​We were never promised a perfect life as Christ followers, but we were also never meant to live this life on our own. In each one of us there is a deep void that longs to be filled to make us whole, and healthy individuals. Too many people are living life on autopilot. Their lives have become routine, perhaps comfortable, yet sadly no passion remains. Too often people seek to fill that void with fleeting whims and fancies and their joy dissipates like a puff of smoke. Empty and frustrated, they wonder when their lives will change. The Bible says that Christ came as a baby at Christmas to lead us to a life that is abundant and full, not stressful, and meaningless.

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​Are there any Charlie Brown’s out there? Do you feel that there is joy everywhere else but in your corner of the world? Don’t despair. Happiness is a choice and with God by our sides, the burdens we carry become more bearable. This Christmas can be a real turning point for all of us if we allow it. As we choose to let Christ’s joy penetrate our lives, it spills out to others and changes us for the better.

​Have you “prepared Him room” in your heart or perhaps you need to “prepare Him more room” in your heart? These are questions only you can answer. Allowing Christ into your life and heart is the greatest Christmas gift you can give yourself. Preparing room for Him in your heart will put you on the path to the most joy filled and purposeful life you have ever known. The gift is just waiting for you! Won’t you open and receive it this Christmas?

~ Until next time,
 Dana

Nehemiah 8:10 ~ Do not grieve for the joy of the Lord is your strength.

Little Lesson Learned: A relationship with Christ is the best gift you could give yourself this holiday season. If you have never received this gift, won’t you consider it?

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​“No act of kindness, no matter how small is ever wasted.” ~ Aesop

Life is pretty crazy these days with all that is going on. Our plates are often so full we can feel that reaching out a helping hand to others in need is beyond our capabilities. It is empowering to realize that despite that feeling of overwhelm we can often experience, when we are willing to open our eyes to the wide world around us, taking the focus off ourselves beautiful things can happen in and through us.

​I remember one special Christmas when I worked at the library there was a lovely older gentleman, a war veteran who I got to know very well. He loved the old black and white movie Sergeant York that we had available at the library. He would borrow it often as he could make such profound connections to this classic story of a soldier and the unique struggles he experienced on the battlefields representing his country. He even asked if he could buy it from us as the story meant so much to him. Unfortunately, that was not a possibility, but as I looked into his sad eyes, I knew that it had become my personal mission to find that sweet man his own personal copy of Sergeant York if it was the last thing I did. God laid in on my heart and I understood the assignment. Sometimes you just know that God has enlisted you on a special and specific task to be His hands and feet and bless others and it is life changing. It can be very exciting and nerve-wracking all at the same time yet nevertheless, away I went on my quest!

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I scoured the internet to no avail but on a trip to the mall I was delighted to find a solitary copy of this beloved old movie! It was a bargain for me, worth every penny and I knew it would be absolutely priceless for him. Arrangements were made to meet and bless him with this video and when he received it, he was very pleasantly surprised. We both cried. He was beyond grateful. I was so delighted to do this for him. A small gesture that meant so much, and the two of us sure shared a special moment that day that is certain. 

​Years ago, I had the pleasure of singing in a trio with my cousin Lisa and dear friend Lisa. One of our signature songs that we sang was called “We Are His Hands” by Whiteheart. It speaks of whatever you have to offer, give it to God and he will use it for His glory to bless others.

​I used to have a lot of self doubt. I would get caught up in a “Why me?” mentality. When I had been asked to do things in the past, I had a dozen reasons of why I was unqualified and why I was clearly the wrong woman for the job. Now I look at things differently, and ask myself … “Why not me?”  I realized that however unqualified I may feel, God can still use me and teach me things I never imagined.

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My first job in my career as a social worker before I was a teacher was a Substance Abuse Coordinator. In this role I provided counselling and led workshops on addictions. I remember on my very first day receiving a call from a frantic and desperate mother who needed to know how she could know if her son was using a specific drug. In my heart I totally panicked because I was just learning too. I was so unprepared. Rather than show her my insecurities though, I put her on hold and grabbed a great informational pamphlet on that particular drug and calmly shared all the info she was needing reading right off the pamphlet. She was so appreciative and none the wiser. I pulled it off and I was so relieved.

The Bible talks of when we are weak that He is strong. Partnering with God is amazing. If you are chosen, he will equip you to get the job done, and to get it done well. Everything that is done for God is meaningful and has value. Never underestimate it.

Believe in yourself and that you can make a profound difference to others in big and small ways. Look around you. Hurting people are everywhere. Maybe your kindness is just what is needed to get them back on track again. You bring much to the table and you just might be the one to bring that discouraged friend the answer to what he or she has been praying for.

Until next time,
~ Dana

Little Lesson Learned: God can use anyone who is open and willing. Keep your eyes and ears open for opportunities to bless others. Partnering with God is very exciting.

Ephesians: 2:10 We are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works which God prepared in advance for us to do.

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It was School Picture Day this week at my school which always generates lots of excitement. This year was especially exciting because we haven’t been able to do school pictures for quite some time now due to Covid 19. I teach Grade 2/3 this year and the pictures I have of them in  our home and school communication program are quite outdated for that reason. For fun I pulled each student’s adorable picture up on the big screen that I had of them from a couple of years ago. They have grown up so much! Super sweet! There were lots of giggles and ahhhs as the cuteness overload factor was certainly in full force. 

Pictures capture a moment in time. They can encapsulate our highs, lows, and almost everything in between. It is fun to take a stroll down memory lane from time to time and recall special memories of times gone by. We smile for the camera and try to put our best foot forward.  Some pictures evoke joy and laughter. Others can bring tears and sadness, but all are a piece of the puzzle that we call our lives.

It is often what the camera doesn’t show that is so poignant, however. It doesn’t show the story behind the story, but more often the highlight reel.

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Snapshot One: Marriage
​I look at pictures of my wedding back in 1992. It seems so long ago. Here Phil and I are now almost 30 years later still going strong, and building a happy life together as a couple. I was so lonely, back then as I was trying to find a boyfriend. I worried that love would pass me by. I had no job, and no prospects. Phil was literally the boy next store that I never met until I started a summer job as a housekeeper for his mom. I got a job and a husband all in one. God works in strange ways and I am  blessed! 

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Snapshot Two: Motherhood
​When I reflect on pictures of me as a new mom, I laugh about how little I knew back then. I remember Phil and I taking Tyler home from the hospital feeling how it this even allowed that we could take him home when we are so new at this? It was surreal as I had envisioned this day for so long. After miscarriages and fertility struggles the baby I had prayed for was finally here. I was a MOM! I feared this day would never come. It wasn’t easy getting to this moment, but Tyler brought us so much joy. Soon after we did it all over again. This time we welcomed a ray of sunshine, a baby girl named Shannon. Sure, raising babies and toddlers is very difficult but in the end, so rewarding. You blink it seems though and those babies turn into kids. Those kids turn into teens. The teens turn into adults, and those now adults grow to become some of your best friends. 


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Snapshot 3: Career
Teacher’s college graduation photos bring a variety of memories to mind. I went back to school as a mature student which was way out of my comfort zone, but I am so glad I did it. I have a career now that I truly love and every day, I hopefully get to make a difference and add value to the lives of a bunch of kids I teach. How cool is that? I even got the picture package to commemorate  my grad because who doesn’t want a wallet size grad photo of a 34-year-old??

Snapshot 4: Loss
​Facebook memory reels bring up lots of wonderful and sad memories too always catching my interest. I see special times and last events with my wonderful mother-in-law. So glad we captured her dancing with Phil, our last Christmas together and beautiful photos of her and our family at my nephew’s wedding. 
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​All these photos take me through the various seasons of my life. Through all the ups and downs, the easy and the difficult there is much the camera does not show. This much I know though, I am very blessed, and I have a life that’s genuinely good. Through every snapshot I have grown into the person I am today. Those twists and turns have made me, ME!

​We just celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving this week and as I see myself in these snapshots in time, my heart is truly full. I thank God for a life that is good. Whatever your story is, I hope you can see that too . I hope you recognize that through all the difficulties and high points, life is still good. We can still see the good and have lots to be thankful for.

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Until next time
~ Dana

** Click below for my version of Life That's Good with my daughter Shannon accompanying me on the ukulele. 

Psalms 100:5 ~ For the Lord is good. His loving kindness is everlasting and his faithfulness continues to all generations.

Little Lesson Learned: Looking through old pictures reminds us of all we have experienced. It is easy to forget how very blessed we are when the hard times come. Remember to always look for the good.

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​Waiting and hoping is a hard thing to do when you’ve already
been waiting and hoping for almost as long as you can bear it. ~ Jenny Nimmo

​Charlie Brown is my absolute favourite of all the Peanuts Gang characters. He is so very loveable and sincere. My heart goes out to him so much though, because it seems he can never catch a break no matter how hard he tries. Daily life just seems very challenging for him. Whether he failed to impress the little redhead girl, Lucy keeps moving the football when he goes to kick it for the umpteenth time or he receives a rock from each and every house on Halloween instead of candy, life just seems so very hard for him.
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I can relate to Charlie Brown as times are tough right now. I am sure you can too. There are just some days in life that are just plain hard. Disappointments, setbacks, struggles and heartbreak. Just when we think we are done the race, someone moves the finish line. We feel a breakthrough is coming and it doesn’t transpire, or we too feel that we are only getting rocks from life instead of treats.

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I recall one year when I was an occasional teacher, a group of supply teachers were called to the Board office for a “special emergency meeting.” Contracts were limited at that time but being called in sounded so promising. Excited chatter filled the room as we felt like we had hit the jackpot and life was about to get real good career wise. No-one knew why we had been called to HQ but we literally felt like the chosen ones. The anticipation was killing us and one teacher finally spoke up and excitedly said to the executive who called the meeting “We are not quite sure what is going on here, but we all feel like little kids at Christmas time!” The executive coldly replied “I don’t know what your expectations are, but I want to make it clear, Santa’s bag is empty. The only reason why you were called here today is to say jobs are scarce and we just want to make sure we have your current contact information.” Oh wow! Talk about a major disappointment. Our expectation sure didn’t meet the reality that day. A rock in our treat bags for sure.

When life does not turn out how we had hoped, it is very difficult to deal with. The plans we thought would work out fail. The dream we are working towards seems unattainable or our prayers seemingly go unanswered. Our family suffered a great loss this past year. We prayed so hard for my beautiful mother-in -law Evelyn, yet she passed away from Covid 19. It was absolutely devastating. These seasons of life are so heartbreaking and just don't make sense. 

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My mom’s name is Marilyn. She is an incredible Christian lady, usually so full of life and joy. She is the type of woman who lights up a room with her infectious presence, a true blessing to all who are privileged to know her. Presently things are not going well for my mom unfortunately though. She is very ill and her “light” has dimmed and seemingly blown out from the sadness and depression she is experiencing right now.  It is devastating to see her struggle and we wonder why she has not been healed already? Why did this even happen to her? When will it end? The questions go on and on.  It is so hard to see someone we love struggle so much. We feel frustrated and powerless at times, yet we still must keep praying believing, and waiting.

Life is complicated. We live in a very fast paced society where we are used to getting what we want or need quickly. Many aspects of life are not like that though. We have to wait. We have no choice.  We do not like to wait. When life puts us in a long line, the waiting room or a holding pattern, we can grow weary, angry and frustrated. We are tired of the valley and wonder if we will ever see the mountaintop.  

​Oh, my friend, I have struggled with this so much through the years. When I was looking for a husband… When we were trying to start a family… When I miscarried my precious babies... When I was trying to get a job… When my sister had cancer… When my loved ones passed away… The list goes on and on. Why? Why? Why? Wondering, hoping, waiting, waiting and waiting some more! I would wonder why do some people get things seemingly easily, and others always struggle? It seemed so unfair to me. I saw people who did all the right things, have everything go wrong in their corner of the world. There are no easy answers.

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I do not understand but still I must trust. Some answers as to why things happened the way they do may never come. What I do know is I have a faith that has carried me through each and every valley. As I reflect back on the most difficult seasons of my life, I know for certain, I was never alone. God heard my cries, but He had a different plan and his own time to bring things to pass. I heard a quote on the radio that said “God doesn’t respond well to hurry up because He already has a plan and timeline.” I look at my history of struggles and it is often after the challenging journey that I truly see God’s handiwork. It is always there, yet so hard to see when we are in the thick of struggles.

I wish I had “four easy tips” to help you get what you are longing for.  I wish I could tell you exactly what to do and how to get through this. It is very difficult. There are many things I don’t know, but I do know that you will come through this if you keep hanging on.  The advice I do have is if you are waiting for something important, special or serious for you or a loved one, please  do not give up. Keep doing what you are doing to keep hope and your dreams alive. You are not alone. It is ok to get discouraged. It is ok to question God and to even be mad at Him for what you are going through right now. Get it out of your system. Have your moment and your tears but please don’t stay there. Some of my biggest trials have enabled me to help others in very powerful ways as I have walked their walk and lived to tell about it. My biggest struggles led me to bless others with what I learned along the way.

​Charlie Brown had hit after hit, yet he still kept going. We can learn from him. When life gets hard even if it continues to be hard longer than we could ever imagine, please remember that one day you will have a story to tell of how you came through this challenging time. I don’t think so, I know so. Please know this and feel free to reach out if needed. (dana.romualdi@gmail.com)

Until next time
~ Dana

Isaiah 40:31: But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles. They shall run and not be weary and they shall walk and not faint.

​Little Lesson Learned: When life gets difficult and you are waiting for a breakthrough, know that you are not alone and you are stronger than you think.

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​I remember when I was a kid how simple life seemed. Do you agree? No internet, no cell phones, a black and white TV, a dollar to spend at the corner store and bikes to take us anywhere we wanted. We were content to play with all the neighbour kids making up hours of homemade fun and then come home for supper or when it started getting dark. It was a great neighbourhood and no one seemed to worry about much at that time. Life was good. ​

​Not that life is not good now by any means, but when did it all get so complicated? So many rules, regulations, new things to consider and fear. It is very overwhelming at times. Even the simple tasks need a well calculated plan to succeed. This week I wanted to surprise my class with a special treat. I bought them Smile cookies from Tim Horton’s. I was so excited to bring them yet had to really think through how the actual distribution and eating of them would look. Let me explain… Our students as per health unit instructions must eat in a checkerboard pattern in rows so they are eating in shifts during their nutrition breaks. This is done  to minimize the amount of people with masks off. I did not want some to have to wait for their treat, so I decided to take them outdoors and when each received his or her cookie they were instructed to social distance on the playground. It worked well until the bees decided they wanted in on the fun! Everyone was great about it, no one was stung, and it sure did bring a bright moment to a Friday morning. Mission accomplished!

There are so many things we are not allowed to do right now it can get discouraging. Nevertheless, I am determined to still enjoy life and do what I can while respecting the rules. The struggle bus is full, but wouldn’t it be better to switch to the success bus? I was explaining this to my students as I held up our positive thought for the day which read “We are on the success bus together!” I explained I wanted us all to get off the “struggle bus” and ride the “success bus” together into a fun, exciting and wonderful year. I explained it was not an actual bus, but an expression. Some caught on, but they are young and not all got what I meant. The one little girl said, “But Mrs. R., I don’t ride the bus.” My heart melted. She didn’t quite get it, but I will do everything to help her get on the right “bus” this year at school that is for sure.

​In all this chaos at times, I feel the need to simplify things and remind myself of what really matters. We will get through this crazy time right now but while we are in it finding effective coping strategies sure helps. Here is what I have found works wonders. 

​Make a doable “To-Do List”
Make a list each day of things you need to do. Make sure it is realistic and doable. Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day my friend and we are still in the middle of a pandemic. You will feel great about being able to cross things off your list and move forward. I love using highlighters to cross off what I have accomplished. It feels so satisfying to complete things. The priorities are completed first and the leftovers roll over to the next day. No shame! You can only do so much in a day. 

Quiet time
Take time to pull away, mediate and rest. The world is very challenging right now and you need solitude. The Bible says in Psalms 46:10 to “Be still and know that I am God.” It is hard to “be still” in our fast paced society but we absolutely need to do it. Quiet time helps to recharge us to get up and face another action-packed and often unpredictable day.

Find your happy place
What energizes you? Where do you feel most like yourself and fulfilled? Nature? In church? With friends? At the gym? What soothes your soul in a healthy fashion is what you need right now. We are better people when we spend time doing activities that fill our tanks and encourages us. Find what that is for you and do it often. You will be a better person for it.

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Repeat Affirmations
Affirming statements have such power. Remind yourself that you are capable, loved and have incredible value to God and those around you. I tell myself in the hardest times “I am doing my best” in the midst of very stressful and uncertain times and that is really all I can ask of myself at this time. My class motto states: “I am special. I am smart. I will try my best.” These are good rules for all of us to live by. 

I know life is complicated right now my friend, but you will come through it and so will I. Please know that we are all walking through these times together. We will come out on the other side if we just keep putting one foot in the front of the other and take time to simplify our lives as needed.

Until next time,
~ Dana

1st Corinthians 16:13 (NIV): Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous, be strong.

​Little Lesson Learned: Life can get complicated. There is much we cannot control. We do have the power to take charge of what we can control and do what we can to make it better. Don’t ever forget that.

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It’s ok to not feel ok.

​I love the lyrics of the song called It’s Ok by Nightbirde who was featured on American’s Got Talent. The chorus says  “It’s Ok, It’s Ok, It's Ok, It's Ok! If you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and that’s alright!” I thought, how perfect? None of us have this all figured out, but guess what?  We will figure it out together. We have concerns today and we will address them as they arise and take one day at a time. Some of you have chosen an online option right from the start and that is a choice that you thought about very carefully. Each family has decided what is best for their family and we support you. There are lots of mixed emotions about school starting and that is perfectly o.k. and very normal.

We love your child too!

Your child is very important to us. He or she is more than a name on a class list or a mere student in a class of 25. We grow to care so deeply for them. They become an irreplaceable part of our class family and hold a very special place in our hearts for years to come. We love them “big, big, big” as one of my sweet students would say. We love to see them grow and change and grasp new learning. We feel their pain when they are hurting and want to see each one of them feel loved and appreciated. Our time with them is short as they travel through the grades, but we have especially that one school year when they are in our classrooms to really come alongside them as their cheerleader and guide. I feel the weight of that and don’t want to waste any time that they are considered “mine.” They are on my class list for a reason. When we call them our kids it’s because we feel it and we really mean it. 

Your child’s well-being is our priority right now.

Please do not stress too much if your child is behind. As much as we are concerned that students may or may not be academically where they should be, we are much more concerned about their emotional and physical well-being right now. It is our goal to address this first and foremost and the academics will follow. When your child feels safe, comfortable and loved at school, the right environment is set for his or her success. This is a very unique situation we are all experiencing right now and we are very mindful of that.

We are partners now more than ever.
As we have moved through this pandemic, I have never felt so close to parents as I do now. Many teachers have expressed the same feelings to me about the wonderful parental support felt this year. Parents you have been total rock stars! You have gone above and beyond and this year will be no different; I am sure. It is critical to your child’s success, and we are so grateful parents for all you have done to support your child and their teachers. We will navigate this upcoming year together. We want you to feel free to reach out to us with your questions and concerns and we will do all we can to help your child succeed this year as always. It takes a village they say to raise a child and we are all on the same team.
 

This is not forever.

There is such a thing as “covid fatigue” and many of us are feeling it big time right now. We are tired of the world as we know it at present. Be encouraged though that this version of life and school with all these unique rules, regulations and concerns is not forever. This too shall pass.  There will be an eventual light at the end of the tunnel, and we will cross the finish line together. Keeping that in mind is very critical because when you are in a situation that is different and unpredictable, it feels at times like it may never end.

So parents, put your masks on and please hang in there. We see you. We hear you and we are there for you!

Until next time,
~ Dana

Little Lesson Learned: This new school year may have some surprises, ups and downs and twists and turns but know that you are not alone.

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​One of my favourite songs recently is a song called Love God, Love People by the very talented Danny Gokey. As I was praying at the beginning of the pandemic, concerned about how I was to navigate the new normal, this song came to my attention. It became my roadmap for how to live life each day. In the early days of pandemic teaching, I played this theme song every day before I Iogged on reminding myself that despite all the unknowns, loving God and loving people daily was certainly something I could do. As I began to ponder how to really love people, I have come up with five creative strategies we all can use that convey to others compassion and that we value them.

Compliment freely
How amazing is it when we receive a compliment? I tell you it can literally make your day. I recently opened my Microsoft Teams Board email and had an eight second voice message from a student that said “Hi Mrs. Romualdi. I miss you. You are the best teacher!” Eight seconds and BOOM! My day is totally made! So powerful! I am working at giving compliments more freely. In the past I have been guilty of thinking nice things about people but not saying it to them. I would think things like: “She is so generous and kind,” or “He is such a talented speaker” but never tell that individual. I now try to make a conscious effort to tell that person what I appreciate about him or her. We call them appreciation statements. It can be done in person, in an email or even in a card. Trust me these words add such value to people’s lives and may even be life changing for someone who is needing encouragement desperately.

Do simple acts of kindness 
Never underestimate simple acts of kindness. They are the gestures that are usually unnoticed by the crowd but often resonate the most with the recipient. Treating someone to a coffee, babysitting a neighbour’s kids, offering a helping hand when needed or taking care of a friend’s pets while they are away are all examples of little things that can touch someone’s heart very deeply. Kindness leaves a lasting impression on everyone and is never wasted.
​Years ago, when I was doing substance abuse counselling one of my clients was crying sharing about his financial struggles and how he couldn’t even afford a coffee and a muffin at Tim Horton’s. I was smiling as he shared, and he inquired about this as he was confused as to why I was smiling when he was sharing his hardship. As luck would have it, The Roll up the Rim campaign was on at that time and guess who just rolled up the rim and won a free coffee and muffin? My client was so touched and grateful to receive this simple blessing from me and I felt so good to encourage him even if it was just in a small way.

Actively listen
People need someone to listen to them. Not only is it important to listen but reallly hear what they are saying. By giving people our attention, eye contact, open posture and listening ear we let them know they are important to us and what they are saying means something to us. When we actively listen it is helpful to say things like “I am sorry that happened to you,” or “That must have been so difficult,” or “How can I help you?” It is important to let them tell their story. Avoid jumping in piggybacking on what they are sharing with your own scenario unless that person asks for that. There is something very special when another person gives someone their full attention and that person feels free to truly share his or her heart. 

Give the gift of time
The gift of time goes hand and hand with other strategies that I have mentioned such as acts of kindness and active listening, but it goes a bit further. When we clear our schedules to come to another’s aid or spend time with someone despite an extremely busy schedule that person feels that they are a priority. We all have hectic lifestyles and too often the comment of “We should have coffee sometime,” holds no weight because no one ever makes it happen. By putting it on your schedule, making a commitment to that person, your friendship can grow to new heights because it truly shows people who is there for them when needed.

Call out greatness 
In a recent church service, our pastor talked about ICNU statements. This is when you say to someone, “I see in you…” whatever it may be. For instance, you can say: “I see in you great organizational skills,” or “I see in you that you are an extremely dedicated employee.” You look for things in people and let them know what you notice. I look for leadership potential in my students and purposely put them in situations that will foster that development. I tell them where they excel and let them know that I see greatness in each and every one of them.
There have been many situations where people have spoken out love and belief in people and called them to greatness in areas that they never thought possible. I heard the author Gary Paulsen speak years ago at a conference about his very difficult childhood. He was raised in an alcoholic and abusive home and for this reason he spent most of his free time as a young child in the safe haven of the local library. Books became his refuge, and the library became his home away from home. The librarian there became an incredible mentor for him, encouraging him daily and helping him develop both a love of reading and a talent for writing. He openly stated that if not for her, he would not be the person he is today. She saw greatness in a young boy living in poverty and through that he stepped into his true calling. I had a similar experience where a high school teacher shared with me that he felt I had the perfect personality and skillset to be an effective elementary school teacher. At the time I did not see it, but the seed was planted.  Here I am today now doing exactly that!

​What the world needs now is truly love sweet love. That is no joke! People now more than ever need to feel they are loved, and they matter. By incorporating simple ways to love people into our daily routines we are blessing others more than we may even realize. 

 Until next time,
~ Dana

John 15:12: My command is this love each other as I have loved you.

Little Lessons Learned: Showing people they are loved is not rocket science. Each one of us has all we need to get the job done. Let’s do it today.

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Many years ago, I had an experience with a certain teacher I will never forget. I have had many positive experiences with teachers throughout the years, but sadly this encounter was clearly not one of them. I have always struggled in art class. I have other talents, but visual arts is clearly not one of them. I realized this early on but in elementary school we do not have the option to opt out of subjects we are not good at. Fortunately, as we enter high school, we get that option, and I was very happy and relieved about that.

On several occasions my artwork was ridiculed by this teacher in front of the class. I was used as an example of what “not to do” while the teacher laughed centering me out in the worst way possible. For this reason, I hated art class and was always nervous with this teacher. Despite my lack of talent, I always gave a valiant effort in each assignment. I remember praying that this teacher would recognize that over my abilities but continuously I was the recipient of open criticism in front of my peers. I knew I never wanted to treat a child this way ever! I am a teacher now and I always praise kid’s artwork, giving kind suggestions to those who struggle like me remembering how I felt as a kid. I did not fully realize how profoundly I had been affected by this experience though until I entered teacher’s college.

In teacher’s college I had a wonderful, kind, and warm art teacher. She had an infectious presence and wanted to convey her love for art to all she met. Our first assignment was to draw a dog. While others worked happily on their canine creations, I sat literally frozen with my pencil in hand. She kindly asked “What’s wrong Dana? Where is your dog?” I replied “I don’t know where to start? What type of dog should I draw?” With a sparkle in her eye, she replied “Any dog you want! There is no right or wrong here!” I thought … really? Wow! What a different attitude than what I was used to. I hesitantly began but, in the end, I drew a wiener dog that was not half bad actually. So different to have someone believe in me, instead of criticize. Her faith in me got me started on my assignment.

A favourite read aloud of mine is Ish by Peter H. Reynolds. In this story Ramon loves to draw, anything, anywhere but his love of drawing is crushed when his brother laughs at his creations. It leaves Ramon rattled and discouraged ready to give up drawing all together until his kind younger sister reminds him that drawings do not have to be absolutely perfect to have value. This notion liberates Ramon as he realizes that he can draw pictures that resemble things such as his fish drawing could be “fish-ish” or his house drawing could be “house-ish.” By looking at his artwork through this new lense Ramon sees himself as talented, and capable. What a beautiful story. I sure can relate to Ramon. I realized that I could make "ish" drawings too. I also know I want to be like Ramon’s sister and help bring out the greatness in people not squash their hopes and self esteem. 

​Recently I have discovered a wonderful resource that is called Art for Kids Hub. Through this magical and life changing YouTube channel, you are taught to draw adorable pictures step by step in a process called directed drawings. My students love doing these drawings and believe it or not so do I! When the task is broken down in tiny steps, even the most struggling artist can create something beautiful. I teach second grade. I was shocked at what my students drew in the end. Even more I was stunned at what I drew and very proud as well I might add. Something I once dreaded was something I actually looked forward to doing with my students. I must admit I chuckled to myself when one of my kiddos said “Wow! Mrs. R. You are an amazing artist!” I thought… Wow if you only knew! 

​We are all a work in progress in so many areas and that is perfectly ok. We all have areas we excel, areas we struggle a bit in and areas that are clearly not our forte. That is what makes everyone so beautiful. I am so glad we are all so different and blessed with different talents and abilities. When we acknowledge our strengths and limitations that makes us relatable and authentic. Maybe you feel “ish” in some area of your life. Don’t worry about it my friend. Keep working on it but in the meantime know there is still profound beauty in imperfection.

Until next time, 
~ Dana

1 Peter 4:10 (NLT): God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.

Little Lesson Learned: Be open to learning and growing. Self awareness is a wonderful thing, but don’t forget you are perfect just the way you are.

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“I'm gonna run. No, I'm gonna fly. I'm gonna know what it means to live and not just be alive.”
(Say I Won’t, Mercy Me)

The birds are out in full force this beautiful summer. I get a large variety of them in my backyard, and they are quite interesting to observe, I must say. On more than one occasion, though I have noticed something quite peculiar when it comes to our feathered friends. Several times when I have been out driving, I have seen many different types of birds walking leisurely across the road. As they act like they own the road and are in no hurry, their cavalier behaviour repeatedly causes me great stress. As I get closer and closer, my panicked internal dialogue starts. Am I going to hit them? Will they actually use the wings they have so obviously been blessed with? Thankfully, in every case so far right at the very last minute, they choose to flap their wings and get the heck out of there! I don’t get it though. I am always left thinking… Why would they walk when they can fly? Why would they put themselves in harm’s way when they can easily soar above the danger? I have not quite figured that one out yet but have often thought how much people, myself included can at times be very similar to these silly birds.

Why do we drag our feet through life when we were destined to soar? Life is meant to be lived well. It was never meant to be something we just tolerate or do well when we are ready. Years ago I recall asking my grandfather how some of his friends were doing and he stated, “Not well. They just exist.” It broke my heart because I thought to myself, “Who wants to just exist?” Not me! Why would or should we ever settle for that?

I love the show America’s Got Talent. Recently there was an audition I will never forget. Her name was Jane Maeczewski and when performing she goes by the stage name Nightbirde.  As she shared her story, she disclosed that she is battling cancer and currently has a 2% chance of survival. Her attitude was incredible as she stated, “You can’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore before you decide to be happy.” She sang an original song entitled It’s OK. In reality she is clearly not OK, yet she sang like an angel. Her emotional performance gave me goosebumps and earned her the golden buzzer from Simon Cowell. What an example of someone who is choosing to fly despite terrible hardship. Even her stage name, Nightbirde exemplifies her character of a bird who still sings even in the darkest time. We can learn so much from her and her approach to life. Recently her health struggles have resulted in her having to step away from the AGT competition and still she shares to her devoted fans “I am planning my future, not my legacy.” How inspiring she is and a great example of someone who has chosen to get the most out of life whatever it may offer her. 

We have all been blessed with unique abilities and talents. Sharing them with the world is our gift and our responsibility. Being all we can be in life, cultivating our gifts and celebrating that should be our goal. I have met people time and time again who are settling in life, going through the motions each day whether it be in their relationships, careers, goals, or other life circumstances. It is heartbreaking when they deserve better but as they have been knocked down, they see their wings as broken. They accept life “as-is” believing they are truly not worthy of more.

​We only get one chance at this life, and we need to give it our best. You are uniquely you. There is no one else exactly like you. Isn’t that an incredible thought? The world needs you, and all you can offer.  Realizing that and believing you have much to offer is key.

Pinpointing your passions is a great place to start. It gets you excited and out of a rut you may find yourself in from time to time. Finding out what your talents and giftings are is essential so you can be all that you can be. Maybe you are artistic, athletic, great at computers and technology, an amazing cook, fantastic with kids, a powerful speaker or incredible with decorating and home décor. There are so many areas to consider. Do some soul searching and find out what your passion is and go after it. Maybe it will take going back to school, a sacrifice of some sort or taking a step back to move forward, but I encourage you to believe in yourself and go for it.

Several years ago, I quit a great job that I loved to go to teacher’s college. It was scary to take a risk, and have our family live off one salary with no job guarantee on the other side. Despite that risk I felt excitement and peace all at the same time. I was stepping into my calling. I felt that and I never looked back. I was made to fly, not walk and I was spreading my wings.

Change can be very scary. We all have doubts and fears. That is so normal. Is there an area of your life where you feel you are meant for more? That is a question only you can answer. I just want you to feel that you are worthy of truly living your best life in all aspects. Your wings are ready and waiting for you to use them.

The Bible says in John 10:10, “I have come that they may have life and have it to the full!” This is my desire for you. Don’t be like the bird who was designed for so much more but chose to walk through life oblivious of the wings at his side. What a tragedy! Keep moving forward. Don’t let this world or discouragement take the wind out of your sails. Every day is a fresh start and a new chance. Spread those wings and fly my friend and I’ll be the proud one on the ground cheering you on.

Until next time,
~ Dana

Isaiah 40:31: Those whose hope is in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles.

​Little Lesson Learned: Flying through life gives you such a better view. Won’t you give it a try?
 
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