 I just got back from the beautiful Bruce Peninsula. We were up at my brother’s gorgeous cottage, nestled right by the water. It was so delightful to wake up to the sounds of nature and soak up all the peace and serenity this incredible property offered. It truly filled my soul. There are lots of attractions to take in in that area. We had enjoyed The Grotto, The Halfway Log Dump and the Tobermory boat tour last year, so we were on a quest to see what new adventures this area had to offer. When the suggestion of exploring some local caves came up, I was quite intrigued as it sounded like something certainly interesting and new to try. I figured we would at the very least get some great pictures in these caves to share on social media. So, to my family’s surprise I enthusiastically stated “I’m in!” It had rained the night before, but I truly thought nothing of it. I understood we were going to be inside the caves anyway, so it wouldn’t really matter. Would it? Well here is where the story gets REAL interesting! Yes, there were caves to explore, but to access them you had to navigate some of the most treacherous, rocky, uncleared terrain known to man. Top that off with the fact that it had rained, and it was also incredibly slippery in so many spots. I was clearly UNPREPARED! Ironically, I had worn a shirt that said "It's a good day to read a book." Trust me, I was so wishing I had chose that option. This was NOT what I or my family had anticipated. We were already knee deep in the hoopla when we came to the realization that conquering these cave trails would be no easy feat. At first I decided I would bow out and wait in a cave and let the others go ahead. I am telling ya, I was terrified. The others were not having it. They had an "all for one and one for all and no man (or woman) would be left behind mentality" on this ordeal and I loved them for it. Through this experience, my husband teased me about the great blog material I was gathering and he was absolutely right. You know me by now, and as always, I figured there’s GOT to be a life lesson in this that goes beyond doing your research first before going on any cave adventures! Here is what I gleaned from my ordeal on the slippery slopes of the cave exploration that you and I can apply to our daily lives. Life is unpredictable The rugged path. Photo: Little Lessons Learned by Dana Just like the way the cave adventure unfolded, life is very unpredictable. We may have our ideas of how things will be, yet many unexpected turns, twists and obstacles can come our way. In these stressful times we could choose to bail out in fear like I wanted to or press on in faith with courage. I encourage you to choose option B. Press on my friend. YOU CAN DO IT! Others are there for you  Phil helping me, step by step. Photo: Little Lessons Learned by Dana I could not have completed this hike without my family and especially my husband Phil. He stayed behind and held my hand, leading the way step by step and encouraging me all the way. I was so thankful for his strength, patience and compassion towards me on this very unique and memorable day. We are all in this together Find your people. Photo: Little Lessons Learned by Dana Life is a roller coaster ride at times, but it is meant to be shared. We were all going through this dangerous hike together and we were truly there for each other. At one point we got lost on the trail, but together we figured it out. We all had a mutual goal of completing the trail and getting back to the safety of the nearby parking lot. We knew we would truly have a story to tell, so we were committed to seeing it through. Life is like that too. Look around you. Many people are going through the same struggles as you and they can be a wonderful source of comfort and strength for you as you go through tough times as well. They truly understand as they have navigated the rugged trail ahead of you and they will support you with open arms. Take good advice Others help you along the way, Photo: Little Lessons Learned by Dana My kids and our friend Rick were further ahead. They made the difficult decisions of which paths to take and would call out with great wisdom paths to avoid and the slippery spots and pitfalls of the precarious path. Those that have walked the treacherous paths ahead of you, have great advice to share. It may be what to do or perhaps what NOT to do, but their insights are so extremely valuable to those who are not experienced in this type of trial. Listen to them. They have great advice to share. When life is hard, there is still beauty My husband Phil and I. Photo: Little Lessons Learned by Dana As scary as the path was, it was impossible to disregard the beauty all around us. There were gorgeous forests, beautiful skies, spacious caves and incredible rocky landscapes. As nervous as I was, I often stopped to take pictures as I KNEW this was a journey I never wanted to forget. These photos would be a lasting reminder of a very noteworthy day. Despite being WAY out of my comfort zone, there were lots of smiles and memorable moments amongst the stress we dealt with. No trial lasts forever WE DID IT! Photo: Little Lessons Learned by Dana I was never so glad when my kids called out and said “I see the parking lot!” It was like water in the desert. We did it! We had overcome! It reminded me that we should never lose faith when going through tough times because they are temporary. With a positive attitude, courage, and good people by your side, your test can become your testimony in the end. So my cave story has a happy ending after all. I was proud of myself and all that was learned on a deeper level that day. Until next time, Dana Psalms 32:8 ~ I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you. Little Lesson Learned: Don't let the fear of a new experience, overshadow the thrill of completing something amazing. Copyright: © 2024, littlelessonslearnedbydana
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 Photo by Travis Wyatt on Unsplash "Simplicity is about subtracting the obvious and adding the meaningful." ~ John Maeda Summertime absolutely rocks! Don't you agree? The weather is so amazing and it feels just wonderful to have some time off from work. Our family has had some great getaways so far and we are so grateful for the special family time. This time of year also makes me reminisce and recall some great vacations of the past. For many years we enjoyed vacationing with my parents. They are great sports and so much fun. I miss those days so much! My mom passed away and I miss her so much. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her and talk about her. For this reason I am extra grateful for the special memories we created as a family on our fun vacations together. When I close my eyes, it takes me back. Here's mom in her favourite spot in our cabin.  Mom in our cabin. Photo by Little Lessons Learned by Dana We loved visiting the Great Smoky Mountains together in Tennessee. From the exciting attractions to the breathtaking views, and mountain scenery, we really felt as it we had been whisked away to a whole, new world. This incredibly beautiful landscape filled with wide-open spaces, friendly kin folk and nature in all its glory was a welcome change from the busyness of life we were used to at home in Canada. Our cozy cabin, nestled high in the mountains, although equipped with all the amenities you could ask for, also provided us with something much more we all needed: the opportunity to relax in a serene environment, reconnect and just enjoy the simple things. As I awoke to the picturesque view of the mountains each morning, I felt overwhelmed by God's prescence and incredible handiwork. I felt the Bible verse come to life of "Be still and know that I am God." What a creator we serve and I was in constant awe of his creativity. One morning as I was taking it all in, I couldn't help but burst out Amazing Grace and I had to raise my hands to the heavens in a display of worship as a response to the awesome splendor I was witnessing. Nature so easily can be something we take for granted, yet it is wonderful to take the time to actually appreciate it.  Photo by Little Lessons Learned by Dana The residents of the area were so warm and freindly. They made you feel like family or lifelong friends. My family and I remarked about how easy it would be to settle down here because the atmosphere was so welcoming. This was especially evident when we attended church there on Sunday. We went to a church called the Wears Valley United Methodist Church and from the moment we entered, we felt completely at home. With a congregation under one hundred, their motto was "smalll enough to care, large enough to serve." The church had so many great community activities coming up like a Fall Fair, and a back to school potluck, we all wished we would be able to stay a little longer just to get to know the wonderful people a bit more. That is the way they made us feel, so "welcome as the flowers in May" as my Gramma Sudds used to say. There seemed to be a slower pace, simpler way of life that was evident there that we so admired. It was almost in some ways that we had gone back in time a bit. Sometimes we can so caught up with “keeping up with the Joneses” that we forget what really matters.  Photo by Tim Wildsmith on Unsplash I loved how there were Bibles everywhere around our cabin, scripture plaques in several restaurants, many gospel music shows to take in, and even t- shirts that said “Jesus Is Lord” on sale at the local Walmart. Now there’s something that you don’t see every day where we come from, that's for sure. This area in many aspects was very unapologetically Christian and is was very refreshing. While attending Dollywood in the middle of the country music shows the performers broke out into “Just Over In The Glory Land,” and “His Eye Is On The Sparrow,” with passionate gusto. A remark was made by one of the performers that he was so happy that not only are they allowed to perform gospel songs at Dollywood, but it is actually strongly encouraged. Even at the local Olive Garden restaurant, the waitress explained that they changed their policy of first coming to the table with a bottle of wine to sample, as this protocol did not go over well there in the "Bible Belt" and was actually offensive to many who did not drink. From a society that has gone so far the opposite way regarding Christianity, it was very interesting to observe these scenarios to say the least. We watched lots of Waltons and Andy Griffith reruns at the cabin and I could not help but giggle at the irony of it all! I actually felt that I was living on Waltons mountain with the mountains all around us! Also like the Walton family, who lived with several generations under one roof, we had my parents with us too. Three generations together enjoyed a wonderful time of laughs, bonding and making precious memories we will always cherish. Yes our cabin had TV and Wifi, but that was not our priority. The precious time together was what we most enjoyed and treasured.  Photo by Kampus Production Taking time for what really matters is most important. Faith, friends, family, and making memories is so crucial for all of us. It has been said that “life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” Why do we do that? I am sure we don’t mean to most of the time, yet somehow it still unfortunately happens. I encourage you to get off the fast track and enjoy the slower pace every once in a while. Work and responsibilities will always be there, but opportunities to enjoy the simple things in life may not be. There is a quote on my Facebook page that says “Take vacations. Go to as many places as you can. You can always make money but you can’t always make memories.” Life can get so busy and time goes by so quickly. Let’s not forget to enjoy ourselves along the way! It doesn't have to be an expensive vacation, just time set aside with loved ones in a location of your choice and the memories will follow. Take the time. You won't regret it and these times are what some of your most special memories are made of. P.S. Miss you Mom! Thanks for all the great memories! Until next time, Dana Psalms 121: 1-2 I lift up to my eyes to the mountains - where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of Heaven and earth. Little Lesson Learned: Enjoying the simple things in life is such an absolute pleasure. Copyright: © 2024, littlelessonslearnedbydana 2nd edition, first edition, 2015 The Simple Life
Tags: simple things, family time, vacations, simpler times, Christian values Photo by Daniel Torobekov "Bravely overcoming one small fear, gives you the courage to take on the next." ~ Robin Sharma I am happy to say I am one, proud pool owner. For years our family had dreamed about having a pool to enjoy during the hot summer months, so when the home we purchased several years ago just happened to already have a pool, to say we were very happy would be an understatement. Floating in the pool is such a nice escape from the busyness of life and it provides a great outlet for relaxation and opportunity to visit with friends and family. It is very interesting and somewhat amusing to watch how people enter a pool. Many like myself like to ease in gradually, testing the waters, little by little. Then there are those like my daughter, Shannon who just throw caution to the wind and jump right in. It has a lot to do with peoples’ personalities and comfort levels, but I always find it entertaining to see each person’s approach and style.  Photo by Christopher Sardegna on Unsplash Dealing with FearI have found people approach challenges in life or issues that invoke fear this way as well. Problems and concerns in life can make us nervous to “test the waters.” Fear can creep in and uncertainty can make us unsure if we even want to go “swimming” at all. Years ago I made the decision to quit my job as a librarian, and go to teacher’s college. It was not an easy decision for me. Our kids were the ages of 5 and 7, and I was unsure if the timing was right. Many people were happy for me, yet many others were skeptical and voiced their opinions openly and unapologetically about the “foolish move” I was making. Teaching jobs were very scarce at the time and many made sure they reminded me of this often. I was also afraid that I would be like a fish out of water going back to school, as a mature student. At the age of 34, I felt so old. (LOL) As you can see I had lots of doubts and fears, yet, still my husband and I felt that this was the right decision for myself and my family. It took some time to complete, but I am happy to say I have been teaching for twenty years now and haven’t looked back. The road to my teaching career was not free of challenges or struggles, but through patience and perseverance I have made it to where I am today. Had I listened to the skeptics, my story could have been very different. Also to my surprise when I went to teacher’s college it was refreshing to see that there were many mature students like myself, so rather than standing out, I blended in very well.  Photo by Anastasia Shuraeva Fear is a very powerful thing, yet sometimes we just have to take that leap of faith. I read a quote recently by Robert Schuller that said “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” It is interesting to ponder, because fear can hinder our true potential so often if we allow it. I love to call on students who don’t raise their hands. They look at me all bewildered and say "I didn’t have my hand up!” I reply “I know, but could you try to answer the question?” Sometimes this is too overwhelming for them and they decline, yet other times something absolutely magical happens. That shy and fearful student musters up the courage to actually take a risk and share an answer. Sometimes they are right and sometimes they are wrong, yet that doesn’t matter. I love it when they answer, as it shows that a fear is being conquered. Many of us are so afraid of getting the wrong answer that we won’t even try. Contrarily though, making mistakes are great learning opportunities and taking risks is so important to grow as people. Even if students’ answers are wrong, I always applaud their bravery for trying, to encourage them to keep on sharing. They put themselves out there and that is so commendable.  Photo by Peter Fazekas Failure can be goodSometimes failure can be just what we need to put us on the right path. Years ago I remember when I was going to get my driver’s license. I proudly announced to all my friends that we would go out "cruising" later, never once entertaining the fact that I might not pass. Overconfident and somewhat arrogant, I went for my test and was sadly informed at the end that I had failed as I violated a traffic law. It was inconceivable to me that I had failed and I remember going home sobbing feeling that my teenage life was most definitely over! This failure in hindsight caused me to take my driver training much more seriously, and I ultimately became a much better driver due to this disappointment. Not the path I would have chosen, yet a helpful one in the end.  Photo by Denys Nevozhai on Unsplash Fear does not own youLife is filled with disappointments and trials. We all have them, yet it is how we respond to them that truly makes the difference. Some folks may let the negative people, fear, and failure immobilize them, while others will let the same circumstances invigorate them and leave them even more determined to succeed. I don’t claim to have all the answers, yet I am trying to be more like those who jump right in more often. We don't have to always test the waters first. I am not trying to encourage foolish or reckless behaviour. My advice is to instead have the courage to try new and sometimes scary things that in the end are ultimately for our betterment. The Bible says in 2 Timothy 1:7 that "God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind." God wants us to face our fears while believing that with him by our side anything is truly possible. So I ask you, how are things in your corner of the world? How’s the water? Calm? Choppy? Why not take a deep breath and decide today to no longer let fear and disappointment hold you back. Say Geronimo and go for it! Believe me there are lots of others in the pool right there with you and they will be so proud you did. Until next time ~ Dana Psalms 56:3 ~ When I am afraid, I will put my trust in you. Little Lesson Learned: Never let yesterday’s fears and disappointments rob you of tomorrow’s hopes and dreams. Copyright: © 2024, littlelessonslearnedbydana 2nd edition, first edition, 2015 Say Geronimo!
 Photo by Nataliya Vaitkevich "Excellence is the gradual result of always trying to do better." ~ Pat Riley The Summer Olympics will be starting soon and I for one will be watching with great excitement. I just watched the new Netflix documentary about Simone Biles entitled Rising. I highly recommend it. I am so proud of the progress she has made in her mental health journey. She has stepped back from the spotlight to focus on her healing and I can’t wait to see her in action at this year’s Olympics. I feel she is in such a better place in all aspects and it is wonderful to see her have another chance at Olympic gold, since having to step aside at the Tokyo Olympics. It is especially memorable to see the athletes achieve gold. I can only imagine how that must feel after years and years of training, to stand on the podium, see your flag raised and hear your national anthem played in your honour. Wow! I get goosebumps just thinking about it! It is the moment these athletes have dreamed of and to see it become a reality must be so satisfying and yet completely overwhelming all at once. That type of success does not come easily. It requires day after day, month after month, and year after year being faithful in tasks that at times may seem insignificant. Putting consistent effort forth each and every day however, has tremendous potential to compound itself into a powerful, positive force to be reckoned with. In the book The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, he talks about the truth that there is no real secret to being successful. He shares that success just naturally comes when people repeat positive and productive habits over and over. It makes complete sense. If you want to lose weight, you must eat healthy and exercise consistently. Having one good day and expecting the scale to move is ridiculous. Being consistent is the key. It sounds simple, yet life sometimes gets in the way even with our best intentions. So how can we go for the gold in our everyday lives and see profound, lasting change? Here are 5 tips to help you get to the top of your podium.  Photo by cottonbro studio Determine your "why"Your why is the core motivation and/or people behind your reasons for wanting to better your life. You need to clearly define why you want to make changes and who it will affect the most. When times get tough, a strong why will keep you going. A friend of mine was building a home business and her goal was to eventually quit her corporate job. She would get up early and stay up late working her other job in between. She was exhausted, but laser focused on her goals. Her why kept her going. She wanted to be more present in her kids' lives. She wanted to be at the bus stop every day for her kids when they became school age and staying focused on that kept her going even through the hardest times. She did eventually quit her corporate job and her home business is absolutely thriving due to her having a clearly defined why that kept her motivated.  Photo by Andrea Piacquadio Envison your end goalIf your goal is to be 40 lbs thinner, envision yourself as such and imagine what that type of healthier life will provide you. If you wish to be more financially fit and are working towards that, picture yourself debt free and what that will look like for you and your family. If you are wishing to become pregnant, decorate the nursery and imagine rocking that precious baby in your loving arms. Create a dream board of all that you aspire to achieve. Put it out there and speak positively about what you hope to achieve. Visualization is a very power tool. Keep picturing the life you will have when you attain your goal, envision it and dream it into reality.  Photo by Marcos Paulo Prado on Unsplash Speak and think positivelyPhrase what you want to become as if you have already achieved it such as: "I am a healthy, fit calm and relaxed mom" or "I am a highly successful business woman with a large team under me." Speak in absolutes like "WHEN this happens not IF this happens. This shows belief in yourself and your abilities. Don't let negative thoughts or self doubt creep in. Be your best cheerleader, not your worst critic. By speaking positively and putting it "out there "with confidence, it is your way of being accountable and saying, "Mark my words everyone, I am making this happen in my life."  Photo by Susan G. Komen 3-Day on Unsplash Surround yourself with positive peopleThey say you become like the five people you hang around with the most. Choose those five people very carefully. Make sure they are upstanding people of substance who keep you moving towards your goals, not against them. Gravitate towards people who edify you and fill your cup so you feel doubly inspired to pursue your dreams when you are with them.  Photo by Andres Ayrton Get a success partnerFind someone who is on a similar journey as you, with the same goals and partner up with them. Maybe you both want to start a home business or lose weight or save money. Work on it together and check in with each other often to see how each other is progressing. Share honestly how things are going even if you are struggling. These people will help you stay accountable too as you each day get a little closer to your goals. Remember that God is the greatest success partner and he wants to see you become all you can be. Call on him for strength, patience, and wisdom. Striving for a better life is a continuous process. We should all be striving to better ourselves in many areas as no one is ever too old to learn new things and all of us are truly works in progress. Life can get pretty comfortable, but nothing ever grows in a comfort zone. We need to want better things for our lives. I know I want better for my life each and every day. Don't lose heart. I believe in you. Keep being faithful. If you do, you will see results. It is the compound effect in action. Envision it with me. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes and see it. I see your flag being raised and I can hear the national anthem being played in your honour. Can't you see it and hear it too? Until next time ~ Dana Proverbs 16:3 ~ Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established. Little Lesson Learned: Gold medal lifestyles are created by being faithful in the small, positive things each and every day. Copyright: © 2024, littlelessonslearnedbydana 2nd edition, first edition, 2016 Go For the Gold For more information on the book referenced in this blog please see: Hardy, D. (2011). The compound effect. Vanguard Press.
 Photo by Studio Negarin "True love is when you know that no matter what happens, you will always choose each other." ~ Unknown My husband and I had the privilege of attending one of my best friend’s daughter’s wedding this weekend. There was lots of incredible food and engaging conversation, along with many lively musical numbers from the very talented family, and so many memorable moments. Some moments were heartwarming, some were very funny, some were very touching and some really gave you something to think about. We had a great time and were so happy to celebrate with the beautiful couple, Hannah and Sean. One moment that really stood out was something Sean, the groom, said in his speech to Hannah. It is how it made me think, "This one is a keeper." He shared that he had really expanded his interests and willingness to try new things since meeting Hannah. He went on to explain that even if he personally didn’t get super excited about the quaint new coffee shop an hour and half away, or the latest musical theater production in town, because Hannah did, he would join her and do those things “for her” with pleasure. This resonated with both my husband and I and we shared with Sean how much we appreciated him sharing that. This is exactly what true love does. This is such an important quality to have in a strong marriage. The ability to participate in experiences that are not necessarily your "cup of tea" with both a positive attitude and happy heart because your significant other loves those things, is absolutely love in action for your partner. Believe me this goes a long way in relationships. Relationships are all about give and take and I am so glad this newly married couple have already figured that out. It will sure set them up for success as the years unfold.  Hannah and Sean ~ Photo by: Kayleigh Hayward I love the Disney movie, Enchanted. In the movie one of my favourite songs is That’s How You Know. In the song it speaks of all the little things someone will do for you when in love such as: write a little love note, dedicate a song to you, send flowers or take you out dancing. There are just certain things that show love in action and the key to a successful marriage is to keep on doing those things no matter how many anniversaries you have celebrated.  Photo by Emmanuel Phaeton on Unsplash Love in action was also so powerfully demonstrated by our Heavenly Father. In Romans 5:8 it says: But God proves his love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. God loved us all so much that even in our sinful state, he sent his only son to die on a lonely cross for us. It is hard to fathom why he would do that when we are so incredibly undeserving. He didn't see it that way. He saw us as so valuable and worthy of redemption. He did this so that we could be forgiven of our sins and enjoy Heaven as our home one day. If that is not love in action, I sure don’t know what is! We can follow his example to demonstrate love in action daily for those who are most important to us as well. Truth be told, it is not always easy to do this on our own. We are only human after all. Whether it is our romantic relationships, or with family members, colleagues, or other significant people in our lives, as people we are not always skilled in this area. We fall short all too often. With God’s love and acceptance fueling our tanks however, it empowers us to take our loving others to a whole new level, eqipping us to “love God and love people” in the most powerful way possible. Here's to love in action! Until next time, Dana Lamentations 3:22: The faithful love of the Lord never ends. His mercies never cease. Little Lesson Learned: When it comes to truly loving others, action really does speak louder than words. Love out loud today! © 2024, littlelessonslearnedbydana
Tags: marriage, weddings, love, God's love, love in action, actions speak louder than words Photo by Logan Isbell on Unsplash “Don’t let the tall weeds cast a shadow on the beautiful flowers in your garden.” - Steve Maraboli, Life, The Truth, and Being Free The other day I went out to take on one of my most dreaded summer tasks: weeding. This is an activity I have always disliked as it is dirty, time consuming and very hard on my back. Do you feel sorry for me yet? Looking at the size of the overgrown weeds, I could not help but scold myself for not getting out there sooner. It is truly incredible how fast and resilient those nasty bad boys are. I honestly had weeded not long ago. Yet much to my dismay there was still this vast green forest of unwanted foliage staring at me, taunting me, up in my face needing my immediate attention. As I was feeling very sorry for myself, I started to think of life applications around weeds and weeding, and realized as much as I would like to think otherwise, we can actually learn a lot from these pesky plants. In our lives we need to do "weeding" on a regular basis. Taking a moral inventory of what should and should not be in our lives is extremely critical to our personal growth. When we get proactive and responsibly address these “weeds” we are putting ourselves in a much better position to become all that God has created us to be. Here are some “Weeds of Wisdom” to consider. "Weed of Wisdom #1" |
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As mentioned, you do not weed once and think your job is done. I truly wish it was that easy. We need to check in on our progress regularly in our areas targeted for growth to ensure we are on track.
Old habits can creep back slowly just like those troublesome weeds and before we notice it, they are a force to be reckoned with once again. You do not want to ever let that happen. Be self aware and honest with yourself to stick with your growth plan.
Old habits can creep back slowly just like those troublesome weeds and before we notice it, they are a force to be reckoned with once again. You do not want to ever let that happen. Be self aware and honest with yourself to stick with your growth plan.
"Weed of Wisdom #5"
Stay with the flowers.
Photo by Secret Garden
Don’t surround yourself with those who are continuing in the behaviours you are trying to avoid. If you are trying to become less critical, don’t hang out with critical people, or if you are attempting to overcome an addiction, don’t associate with people who are actively involved with what you are trying to avoid. This clearly makes no sense.
Likewise, if you are trying to stop drinking, don’t hang out in bars, or if you are trying to eat healthier, don’t frequent the junk food aisles of the grocery store. Some people or settings may need to be weeded out of your life permanently for you to become truly successful.
People who are winning the victory over their “weeds” and avoid relapse recognize their individual triggers and make a conscious effort to change their routines so they can make better and lasting progress in their recoveries.
Making changes can be very difficult. The weeds you need to address may have been a part of your life for years. They may even seem comfortable and familiar to you. They may in your opinion have been a coping mechanism for a period of time.
You may have the desire, but do not even know how or where to begin. You may lack the proper tools. Well, the good news is you are not alone and I am here to help.
Many people want and need to make changes. God’s words says, “He gives us beauty for ashes, and the oil of joy for mourning.” In other words, God specializes in giving us beautiful flowers in our lives instead of those ugly weeds.
You are so valuable, and you deserve to bloom in all the beauty that was intended for your life.
If those weeds are especially troublesome perhaps you could also benefit from professional help. Please be open to this option if your situation warrants it. Such options could include addictions counselors, pastoral care workers, marriage and family therapists and self-help groups such as AA or NA. This help can really assist you on your journey of positive change.
Your journey of positive change begins with the first step. Don’t be afraid to step out in faith. A whole new life awaits you!
So my friend, grab a hat. Go get out your gardening gloves and tools. Prepare to get a little dirty and off you go! Happy "weeding!"
Trust me, when you have the courage to do weeding, you will be amazed at what manifests in your life when all those nasty weeds are a thing of the past. It is a thing of beauty I tell ya!
Right there with you,
~ Dana
Hebrews 12: 1-2 Therefore since we are surrounded by such a cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders us and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith.
Little Lesson Learned: Personal weeding is a necessary and healthy process so we can truly grow into the healthy, uninhibited people we were meant to be.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2014, Weeds of Wisdom, littlelessonslearnedbydana
Likewise, if you are trying to stop drinking, don’t hang out in bars, or if you are trying to eat healthier, don’t frequent the junk food aisles of the grocery store. Some people or settings may need to be weeded out of your life permanently for you to become truly successful.
People who are winning the victory over their “weeds” and avoid relapse recognize their individual triggers and make a conscious effort to change their routines so they can make better and lasting progress in their recoveries.
Making changes can be very difficult. The weeds you need to address may have been a part of your life for years. They may even seem comfortable and familiar to you. They may in your opinion have been a coping mechanism for a period of time.
You may have the desire, but do not even know how or where to begin. You may lack the proper tools. Well, the good news is you are not alone and I am here to help.
Many people want and need to make changes. God’s words says, “He gives us beauty for ashes, and the oil of joy for mourning.” In other words, God specializes in giving us beautiful flowers in our lives instead of those ugly weeds.
You are so valuable, and you deserve to bloom in all the beauty that was intended for your life.
If those weeds are especially troublesome perhaps you could also benefit from professional help. Please be open to this option if your situation warrants it. Such options could include addictions counselors, pastoral care workers, marriage and family therapists and self-help groups such as AA or NA. This help can really assist you on your journey of positive change.
Your journey of positive change begins with the first step. Don’t be afraid to step out in faith. A whole new life awaits you!
So my friend, grab a hat. Go get out your gardening gloves and tools. Prepare to get a little dirty and off you go! Happy "weeding!"
Trust me, when you have the courage to do weeding, you will be amazed at what manifests in your life when all those nasty weeds are a thing of the past. It is a thing of beauty I tell ya!
Right there with you,
~ Dana
Hebrews 12: 1-2 Therefore since we are surrounded by such a cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders us and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith.
Little Lesson Learned: Personal weeding is a necessary and healthy process so we can truly grow into the healthy, uninhibited people we were meant to be.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2014, Weeds of Wisdom, littlelessonslearnedbydana
 | AuthorDana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, blogger, author, and speaker. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books. |
Tags: gardening, weeding, moral inventory, personal growth, getting honest, goal setting
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"Take a deep breath and enjoy your life." Author Unknown
Congrats everyone! Summer is here! WE MADE IT! I hope you have some quiet time and vacation time set aside for you and your family. I have some great getaways planned and am also excited to just not be tied to a schedule and bell all day like when I am teaching. Down time away from the craziness of daily routines is so therapeutic to our souls. We need to just slow down and BREATHE.
Sometimes when it gets a little hectic in the classroom, and I need to get everyone focused and just calm ourselves a bit, I do so by doing some deep breaths in and out together. It always works as it puts everyone’s focus on relaxing and breathing properly. An added bonus is it also brings out lots of giggles as they like to see who can exhale the longest!
When I was doing addictions counselling I remember on a training video the power of deep breathing was described as well. The trainer was describing how when she was struggling with her own addiction recovery, how deep breathing would help her overcome potential relapse situations. She mentioned that studies have shown by just breathing deeply, it can actually alter your brain chemistry allowing the body to come into a more relaxed and functional state.
Congrats everyone! Summer is here! WE MADE IT! I hope you have some quiet time and vacation time set aside for you and your family. I have some great getaways planned and am also excited to just not be tied to a schedule and bell all day like when I am teaching. Down time away from the craziness of daily routines is so therapeutic to our souls. We need to just slow down and BREATHE.
Sometimes when it gets a little hectic in the classroom, and I need to get everyone focused and just calm ourselves a bit, I do so by doing some deep breaths in and out together. It always works as it puts everyone’s focus on relaxing and breathing properly. An added bonus is it also brings out lots of giggles as they like to see who can exhale the longest!
When I was doing addictions counselling I remember on a training video the power of deep breathing was described as well. The trainer was describing how when she was struggling with her own addiction recovery, how deep breathing would help her overcome potential relapse situations. She mentioned that studies have shown by just breathing deeply, it can actually alter your brain chemistry allowing the body to come into a more relaxed and functional state.
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Overscheduling is a chronic issue in today’s society. We can feel overwhelmed and feel that we are always trying to play beat the clock. I know I have been in that category.
I remember one little guy telling me at school that he was dreading that evening so much. He explained that he had basketball practice at school, then lacrosse and hockey practice and finally guitar lessons. Yikes! Kids are crying out for breathing room as well. This is why recess is so important and why they enjoy it so much. Everyone needs those breaks to keep them going.
When we make the conscious effort to schedule in what is beneficial for us, it helps us to focus better on who and what is most important to us as well.
We can learn to be better listeners and be emotionally, not just physically present with our loved ones and just enjoy the moment.
As cliché as it sounds time does pass so quickly and I know I have had regrets from when my kids were small. I wished I had put my "To Do" list aside more often and just followed my heart. Live and learn as they say.
I remember one little guy telling me at school that he was dreading that evening so much. He explained that he had basketball practice at school, then lacrosse and hockey practice and finally guitar lessons. Yikes! Kids are crying out for breathing room as well. This is why recess is so important and why they enjoy it so much. Everyone needs those breaks to keep them going.
When we make the conscious effort to schedule in what is beneficial for us, it helps us to focus better on who and what is most important to us as well.
We can learn to be better listeners and be emotionally, not just physically present with our loved ones and just enjoy the moment.
As cliché as it sounds time does pass so quickly and I know I have had regrets from when my kids were small. I wished I had put my "To Do" list aside more often and just followed my heart. Live and learn as they say.
Maybe breathing room for you is starting something new like taking up a new hobby or joining an exercise class or book club. There are so many possibilities and examining them and how they can bring value to your life is very exciting.
When we feel that we are taking good care of ourselves, we are much more effective to others. I just got back from an Aquafit class and have a huge pile of library books calling my name as we speak!
Even Jesus took time to get away from the crowd and pray. As much as he loved the people, being around them 24/7 was exhausting, so finding solitude was very therapeutic for him as well.
Life is a journey of ups and downs and there are enough activities to keep us very busy all day long if we choose. Please don't be that person.
Don’t neglect to pencil in some breathing room into your calendar. You will be so glad you did, and you will ultimately be such a better person for it.
Until next time
~ Dana
Matthew 11:28 ~ Come to me all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Little Lesson Learned: Breathing room along the way makes for a much more fulfilling day.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2016, Breathing Room littlelessonslearnedbydana
When we feel that we are taking good care of ourselves, we are much more effective to others. I just got back from an Aquafit class and have a huge pile of library books calling my name as we speak!
Even Jesus took time to get away from the crowd and pray. As much as he loved the people, being around them 24/7 was exhausting, so finding solitude was very therapeutic for him as well.
Life is a journey of ups and downs and there are enough activities to keep us very busy all day long if we choose. Please don't be that person.
Don’t neglect to pencil in some breathing room into your calendar. You will be so glad you did, and you will ultimately be such a better person for it.
Until next time
~ Dana
Matthew 11:28 ~ Come to me all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Little Lesson Learned: Breathing room along the way makes for a much more fulfilling day.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2016, Breathing Room littlelessonslearnedbydana
 | AuthorDana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, blogger, author, and speaker. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books. |
Tags: quiet time, rest, vacation, me time, self care
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"To be honest with yourself is to gain knowledge into who you really are."
~ Unknown
I remember it so well. I certainly knew better, but I went for it anyways. The last day of school is always very emotional for me but silly me I just HAD to start the “goodbye/ you have meant so much to me” speech with my class. Well, I got about as far as “You have been an amazing class, and I am extremely proud of all of you.” After that the tears started flowing and I could barely continue, especially when I saw some students also crying.
Well, I did what I had to do then to get by and that was to put my prescription glasses up on my head, so I did not have to witness their sad expressions. This is a little trick I have learned to help me through some difficult and emotional times.
I first used this handy technique when I had to sing at my high school graduation. As it too was emotional for me, the fact that I could face a sea of blurred, expressionless faces gave me the help I needed to sing with gusto. Somehow the way I saw it is when you can’t really see it, you can endure it.
Well, I did finally get a hold of myself at school after sending out some emergency texts for prayer and we actually did have a nice last day despite the tears. I was grateful that the year had been so incredible that the emotion was there, as it was a testament to the good times we had had and all the great memories we shared.
~ Unknown
I remember it so well. I certainly knew better, but I went for it anyways. The last day of school is always very emotional for me but silly me I just HAD to start the “goodbye/ you have meant so much to me” speech with my class. Well, I got about as far as “You have been an amazing class, and I am extremely proud of all of you.” After that the tears started flowing and I could barely continue, especially when I saw some students also crying.
Well, I did what I had to do then to get by and that was to put my prescription glasses up on my head, so I did not have to witness their sad expressions. This is a little trick I have learned to help me through some difficult and emotional times.
I first used this handy technique when I had to sing at my high school graduation. As it too was emotional for me, the fact that I could face a sea of blurred, expressionless faces gave me the help I needed to sing with gusto. Somehow the way I saw it is when you can’t really see it, you can endure it.
Well, I did finally get a hold of myself at school after sending out some emergency texts for prayer and we actually did have a nice last day despite the tears. I was grateful that the year had been so incredible that the emotion was there, as it was a testament to the good times we had had and all the great memories we shared.
Sometimes seeing things clearly can be too painful. Although the blurred vision technique worked for me that day, in life we need to face our issues clearly to make true progress. This is often not as easy as it sounds.
When I would do substance abuse counselling with my clients, we talked a lot about denial when it comes to our problems. Denial can be broken down to “Don’t– Even - Notice - I – Am – Lying.” Sometimes we become too comfortable with looking the other way pretending issues don’t exist in our lives. That can only continue for so long without consequences as eventually important issues need to be addressed.
I would often see this with alcoholic clients who had convinced themselves that becoming social drinkers was their goal. The thought of giving alcohol up altogether was just too painful for them, so only drinking "socially" was a nice compromise, or so they thought. A recipe for disaster is more like it, but they must realize that on their own to overcome it.
When I would do substance abuse counselling with my clients, we talked a lot about denial when it comes to our problems. Denial can be broken down to “Don’t– Even - Notice - I – Am – Lying.” Sometimes we become too comfortable with looking the other way pretending issues don’t exist in our lives. That can only continue for so long without consequences as eventually important issues need to be addressed.
I would often see this with alcoholic clients who had convinced themselves that becoming social drinkers was their goal. The thought of giving alcohol up altogether was just too painful for them, so only drinking "socially" was a nice compromise, or so they thought. A recipe for disaster is more like it, but they must realize that on their own to overcome it.
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Every day is a new day. A new beginning waits for us each day. What do your eyes see as your strengths and your struggles? We all have them.
What can you start today to activate change in your life and initiate positive steps? For each one of us it is different.
Well the summer is upon me, and I can see clearly the school year I have left behind. It is good to do some honest reflection with no blurred vision.
I am both ready for a change and a rest, yet grateful for all the positive things that have taken place. Feel free to email me ([email protected]) about what you are working on. I would love to pray with you or cheer you on to victory! Remember you can't change what you don't acknowledge.
~ Until next time,
Dana
Romans 12: 1-2 (The Message Bible) So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.
Little Lesson Learned: Looking closely at a situation that needs changing can be scary, but it is the first step to positive change.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2015, Blurred Vision littlelessonslearnedbydana
What can you start today to activate change in your life and initiate positive steps? For each one of us it is different.
Well the summer is upon me, and I can see clearly the school year I have left behind. It is good to do some honest reflection with no blurred vision.
I am both ready for a change and a rest, yet grateful for all the positive things that have taken place. Feel free to email me ([email protected]) about what you are working on. I would love to pray with you or cheer you on to victory! Remember you can't change what you don't acknowledge.
~ Until next time,
Dana
Romans 12: 1-2 (The Message Bible) So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.
Little Lesson Learned: Looking closely at a situation that needs changing can be scary, but it is the first step to positive change.
© 2024, 2nd edition, 1st edition, 2015, Blurred Vision littlelessonslearnedbydana
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AuthorDana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, blogger, author, and speaker. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books. |
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Life is a journey, not a destination. It has its share of ups and downs no matter who we are. Some experiences bring us joy. Others bring sorrow, and others at times leave us wondering what can be the lesson in all of this?
As a child I remember my parents trying to make the most mundane tasks “fun.” Doing the dishes, cleaning a very messy room, studying for tests or practicing the piano could be “fun” if you had the right mindset I was assured.
Sometimes I bought into what they were saying, yet other times I was not so convinced.
I remember an incident where I set up patterning centers in my classroom. I worked hard to prepare engaging activities where the kids could “show what they know” in a hands-on, creative way. The students were on task and thoroughly enjoyed rotating through the various centers.
All finished products of the centers were great assessment pieces for me, and it was cool because as they thought they were just having fun; great learning was also happening.
One little guy who had perhaps been a bit skeptical before we started, proudly announced at the end “That was a lot more funner than I first thought!”
It brought a smile to my face, as I thought of times in my life that I had felt the same as he did!
As a child I remember my parents trying to make the most mundane tasks “fun.” Doing the dishes, cleaning a very messy room, studying for tests or practicing the piano could be “fun” if you had the right mindset I was assured.
Sometimes I bought into what they were saying, yet other times I was not so convinced.
I remember an incident where I set up patterning centers in my classroom. I worked hard to prepare engaging activities where the kids could “show what they know” in a hands-on, creative way. The students were on task and thoroughly enjoyed rotating through the various centers.
All finished products of the centers were great assessment pieces for me, and it was cool because as they thought they were just having fun; great learning was also happening.
One little guy who had perhaps been a bit skeptical before we started, proudly announced at the end “That was a lot more funner than I first thought!”
It brought a smile to my face, as I thought of times in my life that I had felt the same as he did!
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When I was in university, I was desperate for a summer job. I had my mom call friends of ours, the Romualdi family (Hmm... can you guess where this is going?) and ask if they needed a cashier at their family-owned grocery store. To my dismay they did not, but Mr. Romualdi replied that they DID need a housekeeper.
(Can you hear me laughing already?) He assured her it was just part-time, but his wife would work with me. When my mom proposed this idea to me, I looked at her like she was crazy and immediately asked “Have you seen my room lately? I am clearly not cut out to be ANYBODY’s maid! NO WAY!”
My mom calmly replied, “This is a lovely family and Mrs. Romualdi is so nice. She will work with you and let’s be honest here, you have no other job prospects right now. (OUCH!) Why don’t you give it a try and the worst thing that happens if it is not for you, then you can quit. So, what do you think?”
Much as I hated to admit it, my mom made a lot of sense. I couldn’t help but dread the thought of being someone’s housekeeper though.
I kept thinking sarcastically, Oh this is going to be lots of fun! Give me a break!
Well, the first day actually went very well, and so did all the other days after that because just as my mom had said Mrs. Romualdi was a wonderful, friendly and very kind woman. She did not see me as “hired help,” but as a new and valued friend who was worth getting to know.
We took more breaks than we worked and she always rounded my paychecks up meaning if I worked one hour and five minutes, she would always say “Here is a paycheck for an hour and a half.”
For many reasons I liked her from the get-go and I had to admit that this was a much more “funner,” experience than I had anticipated to my great surprise.
The icing on the cake was when her friendly, single and very handsome son Phil came home for lunch one day and my life in general got a lot more “funner,” as he became my boyfriend and eventually my husband.
Who knew?
Not I, as I had written this opportunity off from the start. I felt uninterested, unqualified and uncomfortable with even giving it a try. I am so glad I did though, as my life changed for the better in ways I could not even have imagined.
Phil and I have often chatted about what if I had never come to work for his mom? Would we have ever met? Who knows?
Often, I have used this as an example to others to try something new, take a risk, or step out of their comfort zones as people never really know what could be waiting for them on the other side.
As a kid growing up, we would often go to King’s Island amusement park in Cincinnati, Ohio in the summer. I had always been petrified of roller coasters up until that point, yet one summer for whatever reason, I mustered up the courage to ride a coaster for the first time named of all things: The Beast. The name alone should have sent me packing, yet despite my terror at the time, I ended up riding that bad boy several times with pleasure.
I thoroughly enjoyed it and I knew my love of thrill seeking rides had only just begun. A more” funner” experience than I had imagined indeed once again.
I thoroughly enjoyed it and I knew my love of thrill seeking rides had only just begun. A more” funner” experience than I had imagined indeed once again.
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New opportunities present themselves every day. Some feel comfortable and safe and others can push our boundaries. No one likes feeling vulnerable. No one wants to look foolish. No one wants to look like a rookie at something, yet we all have to start somewhere. Trust me. I know, and even the most famous success stories had their first day at some point.
It has been said that life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it. We cannot control what comes our way, but we can control our reactions.
Perspective and an open mind are so important in life. Like me, you may be skeptical about a potential opportunity that has presented itself. There is always something to be learned and what we learn may surprise us in the end.
With God at our side also it is always reassuring to know that we are never alone. He will always guide us and be our help in times of both comfort and stress.
So what “fun,” have you been avoiding? Humour me if you will because you may just be robbing yourself of a huge blessing, an exciting adventure, new friendships or an unexpected advancement that you did not even see coming.
Prayerfully consider each opportunity that comes your way and have an open heart and mind.
Where you think saying “no,” is a no brainer, a “yes,” may be just the response you need to make your whole life in general a lot more “funner” and truly meaningful.
Until next time,
~ Dana
Proverbs 3: 5-6 ~ Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
Little Lesson Learned: You may be surprised about what can actually be fun and beneficial to your life if you keep an open mind.
It has been said that life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it. We cannot control what comes our way, but we can control our reactions.
Perspective and an open mind are so important in life. Like me, you may be skeptical about a potential opportunity that has presented itself. There is always something to be learned and what we learn may surprise us in the end.
With God at our side also it is always reassuring to know that we are never alone. He will always guide us and be our help in times of both comfort and stress.
So what “fun,” have you been avoiding? Humour me if you will because you may just be robbing yourself of a huge blessing, an exciting adventure, new friendships or an unexpected advancement that you did not even see coming.
Prayerfully consider each opportunity that comes your way and have an open heart and mind.
Where you think saying “no,” is a no brainer, a “yes,” may be just the response you need to make your whole life in general a lot more “funner” and truly meaningful.
Until next time,
~ Dana
Proverbs 3: 5-6 ~ Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
Little Lesson Learned: You may be surprised about what can actually be fun and beneficial to your life if you keep an open mind.
 | AuthorDana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, and speaker. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books. |
Tags: perspective, positive attitude, growth mindset
Copyright: © 2024 littlelessonslearnedbydana, 2nd edition, 2015 first edition (The More Funner Experience")
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"Confidence isn't walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than anyone else. It's walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone in the first place." @Lifehack
I recall a situation years ago when my then teenage son came along with me to do some errands. As a teenage boy, I am sure it was the "thrill of his life" to run errands with his dear old mom, but to add insult to injury on the list of things to pick up with the bottled water and toilet paper was yes wait for it people … a new bathing suit for me!
Ugh! Just thinking about this upcoming purchase was causing me great stress and believe me it had nothing to do with my son coming along. I debated about postponing the bathing suit ordeal, yet I knew my son is cool about that sort of thing, so I went for it.
I am a blessed woman because not only did he not object, but he even gave his opinion on the various suits I tried on. I would say I have a son who is an excellent sport and off to a great start of being a compassionate and patient husband one day!
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Well ladies, I am sure I am not alone in my feelings here. It is not a fun experience to try on bathing suits at my age I can tell you. After two kids, three abdominal surgeries and being in my mid-fifties, what often looks huge on the rack, seems to magically shrink in the change room. Tell me I am not alone here ladies!
I find myself almost every time behind closed doors mortified trying to squish my body into what seems like the swimsuits from hell. Then to make matters worse, I have the "pleasure" of viewing myself from every angle with the full body mirrors. Oh, that’s lots of fun, I tell ya!
I usually feel like the judges from American Idol with each and every one. You know the standard line “Ah, it’s a NO from me!”
Funny though, by some divine miracle I did end up finding not one, but two suits that actually looked decent on me, so I did what any self-respecting woman of my age would do. I bought them both because at my age, you just never know when you will find another suit that looks good on you again. True story!
I find myself almost every time behind closed doors mortified trying to squish my body into what seems like the swimsuits from hell. Then to make matters worse, I have the "pleasure" of viewing myself from every angle with the full body mirrors. Oh, that’s lots of fun, I tell ya!
I usually feel like the judges from American Idol with each and every one. You know the standard line “Ah, it’s a NO from me!”
Funny though, by some divine miracle I did end up finding not one, but two suits that actually looked decent on me, so I did what any self-respecting woman of my age would do. I bought them both because at my age, you just never know when you will find another suit that looks good on you again. True story!
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There is so much pressure all around us for women to look good. We fuss over our hair, our weight, our skin and our wardrobe just to name a few. This list goes on and on.
I remember even when I was in my early 20’s about to be married, I put great pressure on myself in this area. Weighing about 125 lbs, and in great physical shape, I drank Slimfast shakes faithfully to hopefully shed a few unwanted pounds before the “big day.”
In hindsight I see how unnecessary that was for me at that life stage, but at the time I could not see it.
In university, I participated in a psychology study that left a lasting impact on me. To say it was an eye-opener was an understatement.
When I arrived for the assignment, the grad student was flustered and clearly unprepared for me. She apologetically asked me to take a seat and encouraged me to look at some fashion magazines while she got ready.
In a few minutes she announced that she was ready. She asked me if I felt that I had any body image, self-esteem, or weight issues. I answered “absolutely not,” as I clearly did not really feel I had any of those.
She then had me stand in front of a screen and I am not sure how she did it, but just like those crazy fun house mirrors, she morphed my image to look as flat as a pancake. It was very humorous, as I looked like a paper doll. Flat Stanley had NOTHING on me.
She then instructed that as she had obviously made me very paper thin, she would gradually morph my image to what I really looked like. I was instructed to tell her to stop when she reached the “real me, “ in my opinion, which I did.
Next, she did the opposite. She started with a very obese version of myself that was very difficult to witness and kept making me smaller.
Too bad that did not exist in real life! I was instructed to tell her to stop when I thought she reached what I would feel would be my "ideal" weight. It was to be the me on the screen where I would feel beautiful and satisfied, and so I did.
That was it and then we sat down to talk. What she proceeded to tell me next has impacted me ever since. First of all, she said the magazine viewing was not to fill time, but a planned part of the experiment. It was to fill my head with what society deemed as "beautiful."
Next, she said that what I perceived as the “real me” was about 30-40 lbs over my real weight and my “ideal” me would be very anorexic if that was actually me.
I was shocked because for someone who did not think I had any body image issues, this was a very enlightening experience.
Often, I have shared this encounter to make people aware of the fact that even when we think we are not affected by the world’s view of beauty, we sadly often are.
I remember even when I was in my early 20’s about to be married, I put great pressure on myself in this area. Weighing about 125 lbs, and in great physical shape, I drank Slimfast shakes faithfully to hopefully shed a few unwanted pounds before the “big day.”
In hindsight I see how unnecessary that was for me at that life stage, but at the time I could not see it.
In university, I participated in a psychology study that left a lasting impact on me. To say it was an eye-opener was an understatement.
When I arrived for the assignment, the grad student was flustered and clearly unprepared for me. She apologetically asked me to take a seat and encouraged me to look at some fashion magazines while she got ready.
In a few minutes she announced that she was ready. She asked me if I felt that I had any body image, self-esteem, or weight issues. I answered “absolutely not,” as I clearly did not really feel I had any of those.
She then had me stand in front of a screen and I am not sure how she did it, but just like those crazy fun house mirrors, she morphed my image to look as flat as a pancake. It was very humorous, as I looked like a paper doll. Flat Stanley had NOTHING on me.
She then instructed that as she had obviously made me very paper thin, she would gradually morph my image to what I really looked like. I was instructed to tell her to stop when she reached the “real me, “ in my opinion, which I did.
Next, she did the opposite. She started with a very obese version of myself that was very difficult to witness and kept making me smaller.
Too bad that did not exist in real life! I was instructed to tell her to stop when I thought she reached what I would feel would be my "ideal" weight. It was to be the me on the screen where I would feel beautiful and satisfied, and so I did.
That was it and then we sat down to talk. What she proceeded to tell me next has impacted me ever since. First of all, she said the magazine viewing was not to fill time, but a planned part of the experiment. It was to fill my head with what society deemed as "beautiful."
Next, she said that what I perceived as the “real me” was about 30-40 lbs over my real weight and my “ideal” me would be very anorexic if that was actually me.
I was shocked because for someone who did not think I had any body image issues, this was a very enlightening experience.
Often, I have shared this encounter to make people aware of the fact that even when we think we are not affected by the world’s view of beauty, we sadly often are.
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Even young girls feel this pressure to look a certain way. I teach eight-year-old students. I remember doing a lesson on new year’s resolutions. We discussed many options for them to consider of what would be a good new year's goal for someone their age and I can assure you that weight loss was not one of them.
When each was asked to share individually what goal he or she had selected as the most important, one little girl said her goal was to "lose weight."
It broke my heart that at that age that was the most important new year’s resolution she could come up with.
I jumped in and explained as children are always growing and changing, it would be more appropriate to say as a goal, “I would like to become more physically fit.”
She was content with that, and it made we feel better as eight years of age is just too young to be fixated on a weight issue.
When each was asked to share individually what goal he or she had selected as the most important, one little girl said her goal was to "lose weight."
It broke my heart that at that age that was the most important new year’s resolution she could come up with.
I jumped in and explained as children are always growing and changing, it would be more appropriate to say as a goal, “I would like to become more physically fit.”
She was content with that, and it made we feel better as eight years of age is just too young to be fixated on a weight issue.
The Bible says that “man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” ( 1 Samuel 16:7) We can be so hard on ourselves as women and people in general. It is not wrong to want to look nice, but when too much emphasis is put in this area, great problems can result.
Focusing on our inner qualities is just as important, yet we often fail to realize this. Inner beauty is in God’s opinion what he truly values. God looks at us through a loving father’s eyes. He does not see a flawed, mediocre person, who is unworthy of love and acceptance as he or she is.
Instead, he sees a unique and amazing person that he created with a calling and specific purpose. He looks down and says “That’s my kid!” I love what author Max Lucado says. He says “If God had a refrigerator your picture would be on it. If he had a wallet, your picture would be in it." Face it friend he’s absolutely crazy about you!”
Every one of us is so unique and special. We need to stop looking at the world’s measure and standard of beauty and look at what God says about us. He cares so deeply for each one of us and longs to have a relationship with each one of us.
He desires a friendship with us, to love on us and reveal his unique will for each of our lives.
See yourself the way you were meant to be seen, as the truly special and beautiful person you are. Don’t look at the photoshopped versions of perfection, because you like all of us, will always fall short.
Focus on who you are, not on who you are not. We all have room for improvement, yet we all have amazing qualities too.
Next time you look in the mirror, let it truly sink in that you are incredible and that the world has become a much brighter place simply because you are in it! Self improvement strategies are wonderful, but let’s not lose sight of who we really are.
Here’s to the beautiful person you are no matter what you are wearing, even though I know you are going to ROCK that bathing suit!
Until next time,
~ Dana
Psalms 18:19 NCV - Because he delights in me, he saved me.
Little Lesson Learned: See yourself the way God does. You’re perfect through his eyes of love!
Focusing on our inner qualities is just as important, yet we often fail to realize this. Inner beauty is in God’s opinion what he truly values. God looks at us through a loving father’s eyes. He does not see a flawed, mediocre person, who is unworthy of love and acceptance as he or she is.
Instead, he sees a unique and amazing person that he created with a calling and specific purpose. He looks down and says “That’s my kid!” I love what author Max Lucado says. He says “If God had a refrigerator your picture would be on it. If he had a wallet, your picture would be in it." Face it friend he’s absolutely crazy about you!”
Every one of us is so unique and special. We need to stop looking at the world’s measure and standard of beauty and look at what God says about us. He cares so deeply for each one of us and longs to have a relationship with each one of us.
He desires a friendship with us, to love on us and reveal his unique will for each of our lives.
See yourself the way you were meant to be seen, as the truly special and beautiful person you are. Don’t look at the photoshopped versions of perfection, because you like all of us, will always fall short.
Focus on who you are, not on who you are not. We all have room for improvement, yet we all have amazing qualities too.
Next time you look in the mirror, let it truly sink in that you are incredible and that the world has become a much brighter place simply because you are in it! Self improvement strategies are wonderful, but let’s not lose sight of who we really are.
Here’s to the beautiful person you are no matter what you are wearing, even though I know you are going to ROCK that bathing suit!
Until next time,
~ Dana
Psalms 18:19 NCV - Because he delights in me, he saved me.
Little Lesson Learned: See yourself the way God does. You’re perfect through his eyes of love!
 | AuthorDana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, and speaker. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much-needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working in the classroom or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books. |
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