Hills and Valleys

4/11/2022

“Life is full of highs and lows. We need them both to grow to our fullest potential. Just hang on tight and enjoy the ride.” ~ Dawn Gluskin

Tags: elementary teaching, perseverance, burnout, mental health, positive attitude, growth mindset, mental health support, goal setting, faith building, encouragement

If I do say so myself, I have taught some of my most successful and engaging lessons this month. Yeah me! We are studying simple machines in Science, and I wanted to make it interesting and hands-on, so we did several experiments. We had so much fun comparing the speeds of items rolling down an inclined plane, making plastic spoon catapults when we learned about levers and constructing mini flagpoles complete with little flags and pulleys. The kids were beside themselves and so delighted to be able to do more activities in partners and small groups now that some restrictions have been lifted. One little girl was especially pumped about the original flag she created for her imaginary country of “Volcano Land.” She told me she was going to compose a national anthem for it and would like to share it with class the next day. I was excited as was she the next day, to hear her national anthem that she had composed and practiced “all night” at home. It went like this …. “Oh Volcano Land….” (Think O Canada…) pause…. “Umm that’s all I have so far!” Not quite what I expected. Priceless, and so cute!

Although I am particularly proud of these lessons mentioned above, some other lessons, not so much. I have had times where kids look at me with blank stares where I have even confused myself on what I was trying to explain. The metric staircase lesson I was teaching recently is a great example. I hadn’t taught this topic for a few years. Nevertheless, I was confident that I still knew how to deliver the goods, until I tried to explain converting with mm, cm, m, and km and realized I was so out of practice! Let’s just say if the metric staircase was a real staircase; I came tumbling down the stairs for all to see! But guess what? I survived. We all laughed about it. I put the lesson aside, did my homework on the topic and delivered it later that week with clarity. It was a teachable moment for sure, and that is always a good thing.

I can’t help but think that life is so much like that. We have hills and we have valleys. For myself, some days I feel like I am crushing it. I am so productive. The to-do list is getting done. I am so proud. I feel on top of the world. Yet other days, I am exhausted, can barely make the bed and PJs are my preferred outfit of choice. Did I mention how much I LOVE Pajama Days at my school?

I used to feel so guilty on these days and worry so much about why I couldn’t get my act together. I don’t do that anymore, because I have come to realize that life is truly all about balance. Some days we hit a homerun and some days we strike out. Some days we are the one who has it all going on and some days we are the one who has nothing going on. Can you relate? If so, please do not beat yourself up. You are human. You are tired and you are truly doing your best.

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Lately when I get discouraged and start getting into a mode where I am beating myself up for my shortcomings, I ask myself “I am trying my best?” Nine times out of ten the answer is a resounding “YES!” I then remind myself that that is truly all that matters. Life is a marathon, not a sprint and each day provides new opportunities to get back at it.

I have gotten caught up with life and have let my blogging responsibilities go by the wayside which has caused me great stress and made me so disappointed in myself. My blog is something I highly value and getting my message of hope and encouragement out there is a huge priority for me. So here I am, and I am back at it, and it feels GREAT!

We need to understand the assignment we have been given in life is to live our lives each day to honour God, love others and to leave this world a little better than we found it. Some days our influence may seem vast and powerful and some days our strength is needed to simply encourage ourselves. You are loved and valued by so many no matter how you show up each day. The world needs you and a bad day does not equal a bad life.

I want to encourage you to take one day at a time and know that some days simply will be better than others and that is completely normal. Laugh at your mistakes. Learn from them and use them to let others know that you are human and can use those opportunities for self improvement.

It is easy to get discouraged these days but knowing that you are doing the best you can each day whatever “the best” is looking like that day, is all that God asks of you. I got your back my friend and want you to live the best life you can. You are not alone and know that ups and downs come, but you are never alone on this rollercoaster ride called life. You are among friends and you’ve got me! Please reach out if you need to talk! I am all ears! dana.romualdi@gmail.com

~ Until next time,
Dana

1 Chronicles 16:11: Look to the Lord and his strength. Seek His face always.

Little Lesson Learned: Life has its highs and lows, but can still be meaningful when you keep a positive outlook and open mind to learn from both the good and bad that comes your way.
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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, motivational speaker and recording artist. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

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Love is All You Need

2/14/2022

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Tags: education, teachers, love, elementary teaching, mental health, positive attitude, pandemic, Valentine's Day, friendship, mentorship, counseling, influence

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"Heal the world. Make it a better place for you and
for me and the entire human race!”
Michael Jackson

This is the week we celebrate Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love and friendship and the joy of having that special someone by your side. I can remember when I was younger and single, Valentine’s Day was not exactly my favourite day of the year, but now that I have had my valentine, my husband Phil by my side, for almost 30 years, I certainly feel differently. Happy Valentine’s Day Phil by the way!

Love in general, never mind romantic love, is something we all crave and need. We all long to feel accepted and valued, and to know that someone thinks we are very special to him or her. Children are certainly no different. I have a wonderful career as a teacher, where I get to work with children each day. They are very tender hearted and loving individuals. Each year I am blessed to receive a beautiful assortment of cards, and pictures they have carefully
prepared and at times I see the words “I love you Mrs. R.” on them. This is one of the perks of my job, because receiving these make my day as these love notes absolutely warm my heart. I am always happy to display these masterpieces proudly around my classroom.

My priority as a teacher is to ensure that each child knows I care for him or her, and that I am there to help in any way I can. With this established first, the atmosphere for productive learning can then take place. Kids need love and positive interaction from caring, mentoring adults like never before. I consider it a privilege to be able to help to mold the next generation each and every day.

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The song What the World Needs Now talks of “what the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.” These simple phrases sum up what the world truly needs quite well. The world at present feels so divided. Every time you read a newspaper, or turn on the TV, you hear of people debating, a sense of sadness, and a raging pandemic with seemingly no end in sight.
My first career before teaching was a clinical social worker. My clients consisted of many individuals who were often struggling with addiction issues and major life challenges. As their stories would unfold, my heart would break as I knew how they so desperately needed someone to believe in them and show them they mattered. I tried to be that person, by showing them love and mentorship. I wanted them to see that they had the power to change their lives with self belief, hard work and taking “one day at a time.”
One particular individual was really making great progress in her recovery and kept saying each week “You wait and see Dana; I’m really going to make something of my life!” I believed in her 100%, and conveyed that to her often, never doubting that she indeed would do just that one day. Several years later, our paths crossed again, and she was still clean and sober and working at a non-profit agency as a receptionist. We were both so excited to have this conversation and to rejoice in her positive changes and accomplishments.

There seem to be so many people needing a little love sent their way during these challenging times. With so many needing loving words or actions, it can seem overwhelming knowing where to start.
Here are some simple action steps to take, to help make a difference in our world using the actual word LOVE as our guide.

L: Listen well.

When it comes to being a good listener, we need to truly listen when a person is speaking. This means to listen not just with our ears, but also to listen with our hearts. Hear what people are NOT saying as well is critical. Be skilled at "reading between the lines" and become comfortable with just listening without responding sometimes. This shows people our love and genuine concern for them, and provides them a much needed listening ear.

O: Open your heart to others.

Be on the lookout for where you could be a blessing, or offer a helping hand to others. Look for people in your life who need encouragement and offer it freely. It does not have to be a huge undertaking, but it is often the little, kind gestures that mean the most! A hug, a word of encouragement, a little prayer, a card or uplifting email can make a powerful difference to someone who feels down. Ask God to direct you to people you can touch in a positive way. He designs "divine appointments" for this very purpose!

V: Value and validate people.

Tell people how much they mean to you. It is not enough to assume people know how we feel. People need to hear it from you and when you vocalize this or write it down, you will be so glad you did! You may never know if today could be the last day you see that person. Those who may get overlooked are those quiet folks, the unsung heroes, or the faithful volunteers. Let them know you notice their efforts and they matter. It will mean so much to them! I have had amazing volunteers in my classroom. They are enthusiastic, faithful, dedicated and very committed individuals. I value them and let them know I am very grateful for their support in my classroom, and their beautiful mentorship they provide to my students.

E: Embrace opportunities

Put your talents and skills to work in different settings, even those that are out of your comfort zone. You may be led in a different direction then you could have ever imagined, and you will be given new people with whom to share your loving interactions.
I originally had no idea I would be a teacher. I was happy working as a librarian, but God clearly had another plan for me. Going back to school for teacher’s college was out of my comfort zone, but I am so glad I took that path. I am now right where I am meant to be in my happy, little, primary classroom.

I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day. Love is all around us, and remember when we show love to others, we end up a winner in the end as well.
Just as the little song goes: “Love is something if you give it away, you’ll end up having more!” Sounds like a win-win to me!

Until next time,
~ Dana

1 Corinthians 13:13: (The Voice) But now faith, hope and love remain; these three virtues must characterize our lives. The greatest of these is love.

Little Lesson Learned: We all need to feel loved and valued. Don’t forget to let someone know how much you love and value him or her. Do it today.
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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, motivational speaker and recording artist. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working or blogging, she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

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Choose Your Words

2/5/2022

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Tags: conversation, words, compliments, words of affirmation, 5 love languages, self-talk, God's love, choose your words, positivity

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"Our words have power. They impact others but they also impact us."
~ Michael Hyatt

Words have such power. They have the power to heal, encourage, motivate, and comfort. On the flipside, they also have the power to discourage, offend and destroy a person as well. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that words are "just words," and they don’t mean anything. There is nothing further from the truth! I always had a hard time with the quote “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” I thought who is the misinformed, disconnected person who coined that silly phrase? Words can hurt very deeply, and people can carry the wound from them for years, if they are not addressed properly.
I have experienced situations where someone’s kind words have touched my heart so deeply, the words that were spoken will resonate in my heart forever. I have also had snide remarks or criticism made to me that have had a lasting, negative impact on me, for years.

On my Facebook page we are discussing the 5 Love Languages as discussed by author, Gary Chapman. If you are not on my page, I encourage you to get on Facebook and "like" the page as it is a very fascinating topic. The five love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch and receiving gifts. Everyone has a primary love language. When we understand what that is for ourselves and our loved ones, and we do more actions that validate that love language, our special people feel very loved by us.
We are currently discussing words of affirmation on my page. Words of affirmation are more than just telling someone you love him or her. It is letting people know how proud you are of them, giving compliments and sharing uplifting, positive, heartfelt statements to enhance their self worth and make them feel valued. We need so much more of that these days. Don’t even get me started on this one! There is so much negativity out there, it is truly sad. When we hear of positive situations, stories and uplifting words, it is the breath of fresh air, and change in conversation we need right now.

It is not enough to think things that are complimentary and positive about people. We need to vocalize them. I have heard people say things like my husband KNOWS I love him. I don’t need to say it, or my mom KNOWS that she is important to me. I don’t need to say it. I would challenge that and say you DO need to say it, because we all need to hear positive statements about ourselves. Sometimes it could be the exact thing that that person needs to bring him or her a little bit of hope, or a smile that day.
Let’s unpack together how words could be affecting you in three, important and profound ways.

How’s Your Self-Talk? ~Words About Yourself

What words are you using to describe yourself at present? Have you thought about that recently? I have heard people so easily say about themselves comments such as: “I am so fat” or “I am so lazy.” “I am so unorganized” or “I am so clumsy.” You get the idea. The same people often have a very hard time saying anything positive about themselves, or even accepting a compliment. Be aware of the negative self- talk and put an end to it. You can be your own best friend or worst enemy. Choose wisely!
If there is something you are working to change about yourself, acknowledge it, phrase it in a more appropriate fashion, and follow it up with an action. For instance, if you are struggling with weight loss, tell yourself I am not the weight I want to be, but I am working hard through healthy choices and exercise to get where I need to be. Another example could be saying I have struggles with organization, but if I focus on organizing one area at a time, I can do it. We ALL have areas we need to grow in. Acknowledge them and articulate how you will address them in a positive and productive fashion.

He Said, She Said: Words from Others About You

Many people have blessed me with their gift of positive and kind words. I can think of many occasions when there were tears in my eyes and my heart was full from kind words said to me. Why is it though that even if many people say so many kind things to me, I may choose to focus on the negative comment I got? Can you relate? I remember a blog I wrote years ago that got great feedback from others, however one reader did not agree with the person I quoted at the beginning of my blog. He felt that that person had no business being quoted on a Christian blog and he was both offended and shocked. Truth be told, I had not researched the life story of that person, so it was a good reminder, but I let that comment rattle me so much. I questioned my judgement about my entire blog, and was so worried about who else I had perhaps offended. I am growing in this area, and I know I must learn to take the good with the bad. When any of us gets criticism, we need to learn to accept it and ask what we can learn from it? Sometimes it has nothing to do with us and is more a reflection of a broken person lashing out and as they say, “hurt people, hurt people.” I am learning to extend more grace to those people because we really don’t always know their story.
Why is it also even when we have created a wonderful life for ourselves as adults, we can’t forget the damaging things that have been said to us as children from someone we trusted? Why do we give those words power anymore? You are not those negative things that people said you are in your past. You are an incredible, interesting, beautiful, and valuable person. You are worth getting to know, have much to add to this world and bring something to the table that no one else can. If someone has hurt you deeply in the past, I challenge you to do the work and forgive that person for his or her hurtful ways. You are punishing yourself by holding onto the inconsiderate comments. This is difficult to do, but so liberating in the end. See yourself the way God does. He looks at you through pure love.

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The Father Speaks: Words About You From God

God is crazy about you. He is totally obsessed with you, to such an extreme that He even knows the number of hairs on your head! Of all His creation, you my friend are his absolute favourite. The Bible says that He knew you before you were born, and His word says he has written your name in the palm of His hand. That is how important you are! You are chosen, loved and precious. There is no one that could ever take your place, and there is nothing you can do to ever lose God’s favour. You are that valuable and special to him.
I get really worked up about this topic because I have made it my personal mission to change the dialogue and atmosphere wherever I can. I want to radiate positivity and assist people to see their inherent value, maximize their potential and step into all they have been created to be.

In closing, decide to focus on positive words about yourself, dwell on the positive feedback you have received from others, and rest in the unconditional favour and acceptance of God. Trust me this is a beautiful place to be! Let’s hang out there together. I’ll bring the coffee.

Until next time,
~ Dana
Ephesians 2:10 ( NLT) ~ For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things that he planned for us long ago.

Little Lesson Learned: Words have power, but only the power we assign to them. Give power to the words that lift you higher and get you closer to the person you are striving to be.

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#BellLetsTalk is Exactly What We Need Right Now

1/26/2022

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Tags: Encanto, we don't talk about bruno, bell let's talk day, bell let's talk, counseling, mental health, mental health awareness, problem solving, coping skills, communication, mindset, self improvement

“Running from your problems is just adding another one to the list.” Tim Farge

Disney Studios, Encanto, 2022

If you are on social media at all these days, you cannot help but notice there is a certain movie taking the world by storm. Encanto, the latest movie by Disney Studios is a story about the exceptional Madrigal family, who live in the secluded mountains of Columbia, in an enchanted dwelling called the Casa Madrigal. The magic and fascination revolves around the Casa Madrigal and the fact that certain family members have been blessed for several generations, with extraordinary and unique gifts.
These gifts include super strength, controlling the weather, healing with food, supersonic hearing, the ability to communicate with animals and being able to predict the future. Although there are many advantages to these incredible gifts, as the story unfolds, the audience comes to realize there is much going on “under the surface” that the characters are not admitting. They are trying to create a façade that all is well, but this charade cannot be maintained. The characters just need to be vulnerable and honest about their true thoughts, and feelings to become the people they were destined to be.
Then there is Bruno. Poor Bruno. He is the outcast, the black sheep, the one that no one is allowed to talk about, which results in the song “We Don’t Talk about Bruno.” On a side note We Don't Talk About Bruno is No 2 on The Hot 100 Chart and is currently the highest charting song from Disney animated movies since 1993 according to recent research data. So why is this? Other than that it is a catchy tune, my thoughts are that it is totally relatable.
You see, Bruno's gift is he can see the future and he was honest about it. This does not go over well with this unique family who likes to keep up appearances, and he gets banished from the family for his revelations. So where am I going with this little movie review you might ask? It illustrates well the damage that can happen when important matters are not discussed. We need to talk about “Bruno” and other important issues that are troubling us, to stay healthy in all aspects.

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In honour of Bell Let’s Talk Day, I would like to speak to the importance of getting real and sharing out loud what our issues are. In my years employed as a clinical social worker, the duties I found most fulfilling were when I met with clients individually or in group counseling sessions. It was so incredible to watch people open up and share their concerns in a safe setting. It was so liberating for many and often the only place where they could feel they could be completely honest.
I recall a beautiful, young woman who had been coming for counseling for several weeks came in one day and became strangely quiet and uncomfortable. This was so unlike her and when I inquired about what was happening, she was close to tears. She stated, “Today I have decided to tell you my deepest struggle, and I know when I do our relationship will be over and I am very sad about that. I know as soon as I share, you will literally say… there’s the door.” I assured her I had no intention of doing that. She began to share and pour out her heart as I listened intently. She was watching me closely to see how I would react. When she had finished, I thanked her for opening up to me and sharing such personal things. I was honoured that she trusted me that much. I was not shocked by her story, but filled with compassion for her, and all she had been through. As she realized that our relationship was still intact and I was not going to abandon her, her countenance immediately changed. She felt so freed and realized that what she had been carrying for so long, needed to be shared with the right person to move forward. I am so glad I was her person that day and she made great progress throughout the sessions.
I used to use the analogy of the person with a heavy backpack in my group sessions. In fact I would act it out and it always got some good laughs even though it was so sadly relatable for all of us. The little skit went like this … I would come in wearing a heavy backpack that represented my "problems," but I was going to try anything except talking about them to problem solve. I reenacted this skit for my students today but used a big box labelled "problems" instead of a backpack this time. Here's how it unfolds.

Denial

I come in with a huge box labelled PROBLEMS. The problems are visible and obvious to everyone else, except me. I figure if I deny they exist, they will somehow magically disappear. What I don't see is that the letters in DENIAL stand for Don't Even Notice I am Lying. This strategy is clearly doomed to fail, but I will keep trying it.

Minimize

I have problems but they are not that serious. This is something that is best to keep to myself. Don’t bother anyone. I can handle it. I don't want to annoy my friends or appear too needy. This is something I can just live with it. It's not that bad. (at least that is what I keep telling myself)

Compare

I may have problems but I am certainly not as bad as this or that person. Now THAT is someone who clearly needs help, not me. I have my problems under control. I am way better off than that guy! ( at least I hope I am)

Camouflage

Just throw a cover on it and cover those problems up. If people ask if they can help as they see I have a lot of problems, I just act like I have no idea what they are talking about, look them right in the eye and say you are mistaken, I am just fine. (but I'm not)

Acceptance and Get Talking

Finally in the end, I acknowledge my problems, accept the fact I need help and talk about it. Only then will this heavy burden become bearable, as I unpack it little by little, and someone else helps me share the heavy lifting.

#BellLetsTalk

I love the Bell Let’s Talk campaign because it gives permission for people to talk about things they feel they shouldn’t talk about. If you are lonely, sad, depressed, suicidal, fearful, feeling guilty, shameful, confused, a victim of abuse or just need a friend, PLEASE find a trusted friend, family member, mentor, pastor or counselor and just start talking. Let your heart guide you and the healing will come.
Don't deny, minimize, compare, or camouflage your problems but accept them and get talking. We cannot change what we don’t acknowledge, so let’s open the lines of communication and get the conversation flowing.
Please feel free to reach out to me by email (dana.romualdi@gmail.com ) or on one of my other social media platforms if you need a listening ear or want to start a conversation.
Until next time,
~ Dana
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Perspective is Everything

1/23/2022

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"Life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we respond to it."
~ Chuck Swindoll

A tale of two viewpoints

There is a story that is told of two men in the hospital. They were roommates. One man was in a bed far away from the window and the other had a bed that was right beside the window overlooking a beautiful and spacious courtyard. Each day the man by the window would describe all he could see in vivid detail for the other man. He would describe young families enjoying a special day together, giddy couples strolling hand in hand so much in love, beautiful flowers blooming in gorgeous colour, glorious sunrises and breath taking sunsets. The list went on and on. At first the man away from the window really enjoyed these daily descriptions of interesting activity, but it was not long after that he became increasingly jealous and resentful. He did not want to simply HEAR about the flurry of activity outside his window, he wanted to SEE it too.
One night the man by the window started having a medical emergency and begged the other man to call for the nurse. Due to his jealousy, the other man refused and completely ignored the man by the window's desperate pleas. Sadly medical attention came too late, and the man by the window passed away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man who was far from the window asked to be moved to the bed beside the window. He could hardly wait! He was desperate to experience the incredible activities firsthand, not vicariously through his roommate for once.
Excitedly he lifted himself to get his first glimpse and what he saw left him absolutely speechless. All that could be seen was a brick wall! This story reiterates the importance of a positive attitude and perspective.

Reframe the situation

I am realizing more and more that mindset is everything when it comes to how we view various life scenarios. Whether something is an ordeal or adventure, a steppingstone or stumbling block, often lies within how it is perceived. Sometimes in life we need to reframe a situation to grasp what the true-life lesson is, or to give it a positive spin.
Two people can be experiencing the exact same scenario yet "see" it very differently. One may see it as an amazing opportunity, and the other may see it as a worst-case scenario. We often talk about the glass "half full or empty" illustration, but our attitudes towards life in general are instrumental in how we succeed in life.
When it comes to a marathon, some want to win, and others just want to finish. I tell my students to focus on self improvement and to not compare themselves to others. Their goal should be to be their own competition and focus on being a little better than yesterday when it comes to their goals.
I remember one little guy that I taught would try so hard in class but what he would usually get was C's on his report card. He would get so defeated when he would get his marks back, but one area he really excelled in was Visual Arts. He was a great artist, and I will never forget when he got his first "A." He was in a state of shock! He kept saying "Thank you Mrs. R.!" I said "Don't thank me. You earned it! You did amazing!" He then said "But you don't understand. This is my first A! I can't wait to show my mom!" This was so much more than one mark to him. This became a catalyst for change as he then started to believe in himself more and that affected his whole school experience in a positive way.

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See the good

It is so easy to complain. If I am not careful, I can go down this path easily. I must train myself to reframe some of life's frustrations and put a more positive spin on them. It is not always easy to be positive. Sometimes it takes work.
Here are some recent examples in my home that I did the old switch-a-roo on.

The laundry basket is always overflowing, but we are blessed to have so many clothes and a washer and dryer that keeps on going! (a true miracle)
The house needs tidying AGAIN, but where would I be if I did not get to do life with these three amazing people?
The bills just keep rolling in but I am so thankful we have good jobs and the ability to pay them!
What are we going to have for dinner? Thank God we have food and are having dinner.
It is so cold outside, but we have a warm and cozy home and lots of coffee to warm up.

You get the idea. Life is good! Often what we have some could only wish for. It is easy to get caught up in negativity, but that only leads to discouragement.
I specifically seek out people who have positive mindsets. They keep me grounded and help me get back on track when my attitude needs a change. They are my kind of people. They share their stories of hope and healing. They let you know you are not alone and remind you that usually much of what we stress about doesn't really matter in the end.
Life can be just plain hard. Believe me I have been there. There have been seasons of my life that I thought how can I possibly handle any more pain and heartache? As hard as it was though, I knew that If I kept the faith and believed that I was given this pain for a purpose, I would eventually come out on the other side and that has been the case, time after time.
Staying positive is difficult. It can be an uphill battle when negativity and stress weigh you down, but by reframing the situation and looking for the good in the scenario you are moving forward when the times are tough.
Is your response in certain areas, weighing you down? I know I have needed to reframe many situations lately and it is a very effective and handy life skill to develop. Care to join me? I highly recommend it.
Until next time,
~ Dana
Romans 8:28: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Little Lesson Learned: Looking for the positive or learning opportunity in a negative situation can make all the difference in the world.

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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, motivational speaker and recording artist. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working or blogging she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

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5 Tips To Combat Work-related Burnout

1/15/2022

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I wasn’t born to “just teach.” I was born to inspire others, to change people and to never give up; even when faced with challenges that seem impossible.
~ Sunil Singh

Message from Dana: I’m very thankful for the support my blog has received. As I have shared my insights with you, my heart is overwhelmed with gratitude because of your continued support. While I am a teacher and draw on professional experiences to inform this post, I hope these insights and tips apply to people in various fields and life situations during these challenging times.

So, once again, we are faced with another “pivot” in Ontario, Canada. We have recently wrapped up another session of virtual learning (“for now”) and are back to in-person instruction starting this week. Ready or not, the day is quickly approaching. The decision to resume in-person learning brings about many mixed feelings. As teachers, we are excited to see the kids and our colleagues, but we also may feel anxiety, fear, and stress. Our deepest desire is for everyone to be safe and for this pandemic to be over “like yesterday!"
Several months ago, I purchased a variety of inspirational t-shirts for work. I intended to use the messages printed on these shirts as a reminder to remain calm and collected during this difficult season. These t-shirts got quite a positive response and did wonders to lift my spirits. Coincidentally, these optimistic messages held the secret to helping me strive to be the best teacher I can be each day. From this experience, I have personal insights I would like to share with you.

T-shirt One: Teach, Love, Inspire

Remember How You Started and Finish Strong
Please do me this favour. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and reflect on these questions. Remember when you first started teaching? Do you recall the inner go-getter who strived to change the world one student at a time? Maybe you are thinking, “Who me?" I say to you, “Yes, you!”
You had big dreams. You were so motivated. You were so passionate about your calling to teach. You spent hours setting up your Pinterest-worthy classroom and preparing super-engaging lessons. You were born to "teach, love, and inspire" those precious students who were lucky enough to be on your class list and You. Were. Pumped!
So, where is that keener now? Upon self-reflection, do you find yourself comparing the teacher you are today to what you deemed to be the best version of yourself as an educator? Well, news flash: that incredible educator is still there, but you are delivering instruction under ever-changing scenarios while being just plain tired.
Please remind yourself we are not operating under normal circumstances. When it feels like your enthusiasm and passion for this profession may be waning, please know that you are valued and matter. You still bring so much to your classroom. You are in this career for a reason. You STILL have what it takes to be an effective and dynamic educator. Please be patient with yourself. The passion is still there – you just may need to search a bit deeper to find it.

T-shirt Two: Coffee, Teach, Repeat

Find What Fills Your Soul
Take care of yourself. You need to be at your best right now, and that is no easy task. Seriously! I am drinking more coffee than I ever have (true story), and I am fine with that! Naps and Netflix are also some of my favourite ways to decompress. Losing myself in a series for a little while is very therapeutic. Fill your tank daily because you cannot give your best to those kids if you feel physically or emotionally drained. What makes your heart sing? What soothes your soul? It could be exercise, prayer, faith, mindfulness, naps, coffee with a friend, listening to podcasts, reading a good book, or perhaps listening to music. Whatever it is that fulfills your spirit and motivates you, please, please, please, do more of those things. Allow yourself this treat. You deserve it. The days are long and hard, so permitting yourself to be off the clock to take care of your mental health and engage in activities that bring you joy is the medicine you need right now.

T-shirt Three: Hey, Teacher Friend

Teach More Than the Curriculum
Teaching may look a lot different these days, but there is still so much good happening in our classrooms. Relationships are forming, learning is happening, laughter is still in the air, and precious experiences and memories are happening each day. The students may be behind academically, but that is okay.
Let’s get creative, try new things, and think outside the box. While academics are always important, we need to be equally concerned with students’ emotional and physical well-being. Above all, it is critical to display love to each student and make them feel safe. We should remind them that they have a family at school, and together we will get through these crazy times. Teach them that it's okay to be afraid sometimes because it is normal to feel this way. We should teach them that feeling frustrated or angry about the fact that there are so many rules is understandable. You are still a HUGE part of their lives. Often you are their safe place. You can spend up to 6-7 hours a day with them, and you are a powerful influence in their lives. They look to you for leadership. Even though it feels like we are literally "building the plane as we fly it," these days, show up as the true leader you are, and I know you will figure out what works for you and your students.

T-Shirt Four:
Teaching Kindness is Our Jam

Establish a Kindness Culture
Work each day to establish a culture of kindness in your classroom and school. Be extra gracious with yourself, your students, and your colleagues. We should all strive to give people more patience, a listening ear, and unwavering support. I encourage you to see the bigger picture. Lastly, we need to remind ourselves that people may not always present the best version of themselves because of stress or personal circumstances outside the classroom. Ultimately, don’t take things personally if your colleague or student is distracted, introspective, or quiet. Lastly, build flexible day plans to make way for potential detours like discussions about stress, problem-solving, or coping in this pandemic. Please remember to keep your eyes and ears open and be more self-aware of what people need.

T-Shirt Five: Radiate Positivity

See the Rainbow Hiding Behind the Clouds
You set the tone for your classroom. You may be under extreme stress, but you can still have a great year. Let’s look for the joy in the journey and know that there is still so much value in each new day. In the end, we still have so much to be thankful for and celebrate. Focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t do. I encourage my students to view life this way and embrace laughter, singing, dancing, and joy within the classroom. We must remember we only have one year to make a meaningful impact on their lives in many cases. As a result, we should all embrace a gentle reminder that happiness is a conscious choice. Let's stand together on the principle that a positive mindset can work wonders for ourselves, students, and the community.

In closing, we are working in unprecedented circumstances. Consequently, we must be mindful of a few things. First, your passion for education remains strong. Second, it is important to practice self-care. Third, let's not forget the importance of teaching from the heart and salvaging opportunities to model life skills. Next, let’s make a conscious effort to show kindness to all members of our school community. Lastly, let’s model positivity in our classrooms, homes, and communities to make a difference in people’s lives.
Thank you for reading this blog! Please don't hesitate to reach out to me at dana.romualdi@gmail.com.

Until next time,
Dana

Little Lesson Learned: You have what it takes to be an effective and influential educator despite what is going on outside your classroom door. Shut the door, take a breath and make a difference in your corner of the world.

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Dana Romualdi is a Canadian elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, motivational speaker and recording artist. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working or blogging she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

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Friends Wanted ASAP

1/12/2022

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Tags: friendship, loneliness, Betty White, connections, virtual tools, virtual platforms, isolation, pandemic issues

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"The only way to have a friend is to be one."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

With the recent passing of Betty White, everywhere I looked on social media this wonderful comedic actress was being talked about with such praise from her adoring fans and colleagues as the Golden Girls theme song, "Thank You for Being a Friend" played in the background. The title of that song got stuck in my head and it really got me thinking about the priceless gift of friendship.

Friends. What would we ever do without them? That is something I do not even want to consider. A good friend can be found from many different age groups, and walks of life. I have many very special friends who have grown from acquaintances to soul sisters. I love them so much and they know who they are. I am so very blessed to have found them and I hold them close as they truly are a precious treasure.

Human beings are social creatures and are made for community. That is why this pandemic has been so incredibly difficult for everyone. We long to be connected and feel like it used to be. Being alone and isolated is not healthy for us mentally, physically, socially or spiritually. True friends are priceless and when they are absent from our lives it greatly affects us.

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People in so many professions are maxed out right now. Many are at their breaking point. This pandemic has gone on far too long and people are exhausted and simply burnt out. Doctors, nurses, teachers and educational staff, small business owners, and pastors, just to name a few are not o.k. Life has gotten so hard and even when we are with our colleagues and friends, we must be very careful to keep our distance. We are concerned about unknowingly making each other sick. The loneliness can get so crippling.

The dilemma remains of how do we stay close when we must be six feet apart? How do we stay connected when we must social distance? I have wrestled with these questions and have found some helpful solutions. They are common everyday steps we can take to feel that connection and sense of community once again we so desperately need.

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Embrace Technology

Technology can keep us connected like never before. I remember as a kid thinking wouldn't it be so cool if you could call someone and actually see him or her like they did on the Jetsons cartoon? It is a common reality now and I love it! You can use platforms like Skype, Microsoft Teams, Google Meets, Facebook Messenger and FaceTime. There is power in seeing someone you miss so much. I have a best friend named Jade, in British Colombia, and we always visit this way. It is so cool that I can see her face to face and get to know her little ones who I have never met in person through this innovative communication tool.

Virtual school brings me 15 incredible kids face to face in squares like the Brady Bunch intro and it always makes me smile. I have started what I call the "Chit Chat Club" where I stay on a bit extra just to visit with those that want to stay. Kids need that. They miss their friends so much and they just need time to visit.

Join Supportive Communities

Joining supportive online communities can make a world of difference. I have my personal Facebook page and a page and blog called Little Lessons Learned by Dana to provide hope and encouragement to others. As I share my struggles and insights, I strive to add value to others' lives. In addition, I am a part of many other online groups. Some are professional. Others are spiritual and others, are just about fun and friendship, but I enjoy them all because we are connecting! If you are not a part of online communites, I encourage you to investgate this possibility. There are groups for every hobby, profession, and interest. Truly something for everyone!

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Make the Call

Connect with your friends by actually calling them! Skip the texting. There is nothing wrong with texting if that is all you can do or have time for, but when people can actually hear your voice it makes such a difference. Make the time for that call. Schedule it. You won't regret it.

Old Fashioned Letters and Cards

Remember snail mail? Oh, yeah! It used to be all we had other than phone calls to keep in touch. I used to write many letters to pen pals every month as a teen and it was very exciting and meaningful. I had pen pals from many different countries. Just because we have new, modern ways to keep in touch, it doesn't mean that letters and cards are a bad idea. In fact, they are the opposite! What a pleasant surprise to get a card or letter from a BFF or special someone in amongst all the junk mail and bills! Trust me you will make someone's day! When we were studying friendly letters in virtual school, I sent letters to all my students. For some of them it was the only mail they have ever received. It really meant a lot to them!

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Things will not always be this way. At some point it will get better. Until then, we need to prioritise those special friendships and other relationships we hold dear and reach out in creative ways.

Until next time
~ Dana

Proverbs 27:9 ~ A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.

Little Lesson Learned: We can still feel very close to those special friends of ours during these crazy times. It just takes a bit more effort.

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Dana Romualdi is an elementary teacher, social worker, blogger, author, motivational speaker and recording artist. She has a passion for helping others and spreading much needed encouragement. She lives in Canada with her husband and two grown children. When she is not working or blogging she enjoys drinking coffee, watching Netflix and reading great books.

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8 Tips For Virtual Teaching You Need Now

1/3/2022

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Here we go again. Whether we like it or not in Ontario, Canada, school is back online as of this Wednesday. I am a Canadian elementary teacher and we had originally been told that we would be teaching in person this Wednesday. With the Omnicron virus, however, and its rising transmission rates, it has been decided by the provincial government that for all concerned some online class time right now is best.

I remember when I first became a virtual teacher the great anxiety, stress and feeling of inadequacy I felt. It was overwhelming to take your whole program online with very little notice and at times very little training. If you are feeling that sense of panic, I have been there. You are not alone. Thankfully, I am in a much better place than I was and I am here to help.

I have valuable insights for you on how to not only survive but thrive as a virtual teacher! These are things I wish I knew when I started, and I am happy to pass them on to you. Depending on where you are in your virtual teaching journey, these tips may be new information or simple reminders but nevertheless, here we go!

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Tip 1: Relax and breathe
You may be thinking relax? Yeah right! It is essential though. Going with the flow and keeping your composure is key. Calm is strength. Close your eyes. Pause, breathe and smile. You got this and know that you can totally do this! This is your assignment right now and if you accept that, be at peace with it and maintain a relaxed demeanor, you are already setting the stage for success.

Tip 2: Get to know one platform at a time
When I first started virtual teaching, online platforms and tools were coming at me fast and furious. I felt like I was in a dodgeball game where I was the main target, and we all know how an aggressive game of dodgeball can go, right? Not pretty. There were so many new and innovative virtual tools and at first I put pressure on myself to be well versed in all of them at once. That was not a good plan. To save my sanity, I instead started with only the necessary platforms first and built strong skills in those. The platforms our school board uses are Microsoft Teams and Edsby. I would still be interested in the other cool things that others were doing virtually, but just made a note to myself to consider them for the future. I was trying to be the best online teacher I could be, but reminded myself that I was not in competition with anyone. As I felt more confident with the mandatory platforms, I started to launch out and dabble in other virtual tools as I was ready. Putting new tools on the backburner and picking them up when I felt comfortable helped me build a stronger online program in the long run.

Tip 3: Have clear rules and expectations
Decide in advance what rules the students must follow. Have clear and fair expectations. Type them out with some cute graphics and review them often. Realize that rules may evolve in time and that is just fine. Review how to use the online tools they will need to be successful and post the daily schedule they will follow. Involve them as much as possible. They need to be an active part of the online school community. Make participation nonnegotiable. They are there to contribute, share their insights and complete assignments just like if they were at school in person. Students are a valuable part of the online experience and make them feel that way.

Tip 4: Be confident and honest
You can do hard things. Tell yourself that “I can do this” and not only that, but “I can do this well!” If you make mistakes along the way, remember those blunders are excellent learning opportunities. When I first started I was very transparent with my students and parents. I made it clear that I was not an authority on virtual teaching or virtual tools but was working very hard to learn them and make an engaging, and worthwhile program at the same time. I did not try to be perfect, but I projected self confidence. I kept a growth mindset approach and tried to learn all I could to constantly improve my skills. I am certainly not even at present an authority per se, but I am without a doubt a much more knowledgeable and capable online teacher now than when I first started.

Tip 5: Over plan and network

Just like in a live setting of school, the day plan can go unexpectedly fast or slow. Make sure you have extra activities like your favourite read aloud books, YouTube games, some DPA activities (Daily Physical Activity) or flashcards to throw in if needed. Scavenger hunts are a lot of fun as well as you can make them about literally anything. I have done scavenger hunts on colours, adjectives, and shapes just to name a few. Directed drawings are always a big hit as well. Art For Kids Hub on YouTube is my go-to for this and the students and I enjoy these art activities very much. For more details on this amazing resource please check out my blog called The Power of “Ish.” You can click on the picture as it is linked. If you are needing ideas network with colleagues, join online communities like Facebook groups and follow teachers you admire on Instagram or Twitter. It gives you a window on what they are doing and provides you with lots of great ideas and resources to try.

Tip 6: Expect the unexpected
You will have internet issues. The students will have internet issues. The screen will freeze. I was teaching virtually in a school with mostly in person instruction and I had to unexpectedly leave my virtual class to exit the school building for a fire drill. Stuff happens. These type of situations used to throw me over the edge until I realized these are things that are completely out of my control and I just have to deal with it. Pets and little siblings will be regular attenders. A cat named Pumpkin was one of my most faithful attenders. She was so attentive and engaged. It was really comical. I even joked that she was getting all A’s on her report card! You also may hear or perhaps see things you would prefer not to, but that is where the mute or disable camera button comes in very handy! I had a student who regularly fell asleep on camera, so I had to keep deleting her from my meeting. When she would come back on, she looked very confused but at least she was ready to participate and learn.

Tip 7: Have fun!
Make online learning fun! Incorporate games, songs, incentives, contests, Spirit Days, and virtual field trips on a regular basis. The more engaging your program is, the more your students will enjoy the experience and be excited to log on each day. Actively involve them and inquire about what their favourite virtual activities are so they are getting the most out of the content you provide.

Tip 8: Remember this too shall pass
At the end of the day, this is a unique teaching opportunity we have been given. Rather than stress or complain about it, embrace it and get out of it all you can. I have learned so much through online teaching and have incorporated much of what I have acquired into my in-person program. Honestly, I am a better teacher for having had this experience. This will not last forever and believe it or not it is a special and memorable chapter in your teaching career that you will always remember. Fill free to reach out to me if I can help at all at dana.romualdi@gmail.com. I have also included at the end of this blog some of my favourite tools for virtual learning.

Until next time
~ Dana

Little Lesson Learned: Online teaching provides a great opportunity for you to acquire new skills, incorporate innovative, engaging activities and truly grow as a professional. Embrace this season and you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in the end.

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Favourite Online Teaching Lifesavers

Miscellaneous Resources and Websites
Facebook virtual teaching groups, Teachers Pay Teachers, Kindergarten Smorgasboard (Website and YouTube channel), Toy Theater, Epic Reading, Lexia Core 5, Wheel of Names

YouTube Videos
GoNoodle, Cosmic Yoga, Art Hub for Kids, CheeriToons, Various Read alouds, Scratch Garden, DJ Ralphi, Just Dance, SciShow Kids, Homeschool Pop, Jack Hartmann Kids Music Channel, Koo Koo Kangaroo, Mister Teach, The Kiboomers, The Juicebox Jukebox, Sesame Street Word of the Day, The Learning Station, Storyline Online, HiHo Kids, Coach Corey Martin, Kids Academy, P.E. with Mr. G., Storytime Anytime, Rebecca Allgeier's Kinderland, P.E. With Coach Smith, Happy Drawings, One Voice Childrens' Choir, Teaching Without Frills

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The Beauty of a Fresh Start

12/29/2021

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“I love the big fresh starts, the clean slates like birthdays and New Year’s, but I also like the idea that we can get up every morning and start over.” Kristin Armstrong

Can you believe that we have very few days left in 2021? 2022 is very fast approaching. Many may feel when it comes to reflecting on this past crazy, roller coaster of a year great satisfaction to see it go. It seems many have an extreme feeling of a relief that it is finally over. If this is you, I understand and I can totally relate. But despite the state of our world overall, joy was still found this year with new births, weddings, graduations, answered prayers and personal milestones achieved. Life still goes on and I am truly thankful for that.

Thinking ahead to a new year, I always enjoy the feeling of a clean slate. A fresh start is truly a beautiful thing. I recall many years feeling so excited with a whole slew of overly ambitious New Year’s resolutions written down and great determination to see each one of them come to pass. Oh, the things that I was going to do! It was so incredible to imagine!

I also sadly recall before the calendar turned to February that many of my very lofty goals had not been achieved and the great excitement of the New Year’s resolutions had completely disappeared. There I was left defeated and discouraged. My enthusiasm had vanished and I felt like a total failure. It was silly to feel that just because I had not been successful in January that that had to set the tone for my year, or perhaps even my whole life, yet sometimes I would allow myself to feel that way.

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In reality I needed to realize that you and I can have a fresh start each and every day. It is funny to think why do we allow ourselves to walk in defeat when the gift of a fresh start comes with every sunrise? It is not about how we start but how we finish that really matters.

This may sound too simplistic as some of us are dealing with very dark and serious daily realities. Our circumstances may not change with the new day. It may take many days, weeks, or even years to get that true fresh start you crave. What can be fresh is our attitudes and we can partner with God to face the battle from a position of victory. This can be the very first step to having a fresh start.

Chuck Swindoll was quoted as saying "Life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I respond to it." Much of what happens to us is not to our liking. Our plates are often overflowing and and we feel that we cannot handle one more thing without going over the proverbial edge. It is empowering to learn that shifting our mindset can be the key to handling what comes our way like a boss!

I have met many people who appear to have it all together. At first glance you may think their lives are perfect and they do not have one care in the world. Often the reality is quite the opposite. I have found that those people handle life’s challenges better because they have a different mindset. These people approach life with a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset. I will explain the difference between the two.

Fixed Mindset
A fixed mindset has the perspective that when it comes to our lives “it is what it is” and that things cannot and will not change. We feel that we are not good enough, change is too hard, our mistakes are too many, and acceptance is our only option. Many times this stems from past failures, negative comments that others have said or traumatic life experiences. Sometimes people speak negativity over our lives and we soak it up like a sponge whether we realize it or not.

I have written about my traumatic experience with my art teacher in years past in my blog entitled "The Power of Ish.” In a nutshell my teacher repeatedly spoke of me and my artistic abilities with extreme criticism and disdain. I picked up what he has putting down and I carried it with me for years. Even as an adult I was afraid to draw or do anything artistic, as I could always hear him taunting me in the back of my mind. I overcame this but it took great effort and time. A fixed mindset is crippling. We lie to ourselves that life as we know it is all there is when, healing, great growth and exciting new possibilities are available to us if we pursue them.

Growth Mindset
A growth mindset puts a positive spin on things we are learning or find challenging. We feed our mind with positive comments and uplifting self talk believing that in time we will improve. We are patient with ourselves and realize that life is a marathon and not a sprint. We tell ourselves that we can’t do that “yet” and it literally changes how we view the whole scenario. By adding “yet” to the sentence it is implied that we will get it in the future, at our own pace and that is the game changer.

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I remember a young student was doing a reading assessment with me and before she even started she said sadly “I just want to let you know before we start, I can’t read.” I said “Ok, but what you really want to say is I can’t read yet.” Her face lit up as she let those words sink in. This was the start of changing her fixed mindset to a growth mindset. She broke the mental block that she had established and I am pleased to report that her reading really improved. What a momentous day it was for her and I when she was Guest Reader in our classroom. Guest Reader gets to read a book of his or her choice to the class and she actually was so confident she could barely contain her excitement. Quite a different mindset from a student who told me she couldn’t read. It was a beautiful moment to witness.

As we enter a new year, please know that change is possible. Set goals. Strive for them and know that we are all works in progress. You may fall. We all do. So what! Does it mean that you are failure? Absolutely not! It just means that you need to dust yourself off, adopt a growth mindset and get back in the game. Let’s work on our goals together. With the power of “yet” and a positive attitude there is no telling what we both can accomplish!
Let's go get 'em!

Until next time
~ Dana

Philippians 4:13: I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.

Little Lesson Learned: If you fail, celebrate your mistakes. Regroup and try again. Positive change will come in time if you keep believing.

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Five Gifts That Money Can't Buy

12/22/2021

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"Sleep, hugs, kisses, love, friends, family, memories, smiles, laughter and fun.
The best things in life are free."
Author Unknown

The countdown to Christmas is on and I am happy to say just little things and some wrapping remain, so I am pleased at where things stand. Every year I try to think creatively and choose a nice variety of gifts for my family that are not only what they would like, but are also memorable as well.

I recall a special memory when I was a child of receiving the most amazing gift of my first and cherished Cabbage Patch doll. It was actually a birthday gift, but one of the most memorable gifts I have ever received. I remember my sweet mom stood in line at Zellers at the crack of dawn braving the “Black Friday” style crowd for the mere “chance” to get one of these dolls who were in extremely short supply that year. Cabbage Patch dolls were what everyone was asking for that year. To get ANY doll, let alone the one your preferred, would be anything short of a miracle at that time . Sadly, my mom left empty handed that day. Knowing how heartbroken I would be, she was sharing her extreme disappointment with her cousin. To my mom’s delight, my cousin just happened to have gotten her hands on two of these high demand dolls and was willing to sell one to my mom. Not only was this an amazing turn of events but it happened to be the exact one I wanted, a bald, baby Cabbage Patch doll with a soother. You can imagine my mom and dad’s joy to give me that doll and the excitement I felt receiving it. Well, what can I say? The rest is history and Raymond Fred and I lived happily ever after!

Yes, I am very fortunate and have received many special gifts through the years. With so much emphasis these days on the gifts we buy at this season, it got me thinking however about the incredible gifts we have that money can't buy. They are precious things or people that we may at times take for granted. I would like to bring them to the forefront at this time to remind us of how fortunate we are. When it comes to gifts that money can't buy as they say in The Sound of Music "these are a few of my favourite things."

~ Special People ~

Cherish your family members and special friends. You honestly do not know how long they will be in your life. It is so easy to become comfortable with those we see on a regular basis that we fail to let them know how much they mean to us. Once they are gone you do not want to have any regrets. My precious mother-in-law Evelyn died in 2020 from Covid 19. With her passing it has left a void that will never be filled. This is our second Christmas without her, and it is still so hard. She is so noticeably absent. Although I miss her so much, I am so grateful that we had a beautiful relationship and I truly have no regrets. I have many special memories of her. She was such a comical, kind and generous soul who loved her family fiercely and was always looking for opportunities to bless others. I was honoured to sing at her funeral and give her a musical tribute. I cherish the memories I have with her and know we will meet again one day.

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~ Good Health ~

If you are in good health be so grateful. Good health is never something to take for granted. Take steps to take care of yourself and do what you can to stay healthy. Many people through no fault of their own this holiday season are not so fortunate. My heart rejoices for some, yet is heavy for others. My sister Judy has made an amazing recovery from breast cancer. She went through some very dark times but she fought hard, inspiring so many people along the way and we rejoice with her this Christmas that she is completely cancer-free! My mom however is in need of healing now. I am also aware of many other families who have family members who are battling serious illnesses and are in a need of a miracle for their loved ones. It is so difficult when the illnesses linger on for the people who need healing and the family members. Be a light to those who are in this situation. Reach out to them this Christmas with a loving gesture or ask how you can be a blessing to them. They need to talk about their story and they will be so appreciative for your thoughtfulness and interest in them and their situations.

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~ Employment ~

It doesn't take long to realize that without financial income, we would be in a very bad way. We have experienced unemployment in our home and know the stress of living on a very tight budget. Many people are out of work and are dealing with the reality of not knowing if they will be able to pay their bills each month. If you have employment, be grateful. Some of us have dream jobs. Some of us have decent jobs and some of us have what we might deem as “the worst jobs of all.” No matter what category you fall into, know that your job is supporting your family and assisting to meet their many needs. If your job is difficult, dissatisfying, or inappropriate for you, pray for a new opportunity. In the meantime, be thankful for where you are right now because every job provides an environment where we can really learn something and bless others if we are open to it.

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~ Precious Memories ~

Memories are the keepsakes of the heart. I have many precious memories of Christmas growing up with special Christmas pageants at the church, Christmas Eve at my Aunt Bev's house and sharing special times with my family. Many of those family have passed on, yet my memories will always live on. Take a stroll down memory lane from time to time and reflect on all the positive you have experienced. It will warm your heart, bring a smile to your face, and remind you of how much you have to be grateful for.

~ A Forgiven Heart ~

The most important gift money can't buy this Christmas is a forgiven heart. Not only is it important to offer and receive forgiveness from each other, but it is vital for each one of us to experience God's forgiveness. Many people feel they must work for God's love. Many struggle with feelings of unworthiness. They feel if they are good enough or try hard enough that maybe, just maybe God will love them and allow them entry into Heaven one day. Christ came as a baby to offer us the free gift of salvation and forgiveness of sins. God wants to give each one of us a clean slate and a fresh start and all we have to do is ask. There is nothing that we could do to make God love us any less or any more. The free gift of a forgiven heart is offered to each one of us and I can't think of a greater time of year than Christmas to experience this life changing gift that money can't buy.

So this Christmas in the midst of all the store bought gifts, look around the room and notice the special people at your table and reflect on all that you have been blessed with that money can't buy. There is so much more to appreciate and counting your blessings is a truly wonderful thing!

Merry Christmas and Until Next Time,

~ Dana

James 1: 17 ( NIV) : Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.

Little Lesson Learned: Many of the most wonderful gifts we have on a daily basis are absolutely priceless. Let's make a conscious effort to really appreciate them!

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